❤️ 🎤 The Girlfriend Podcast (5) 🎤 ❤️ (F4M) (Talking on Your Girlfriend’s Podcast) (Silly & Serious Topics)

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Why do you keep wanting this? We like it, but we also worry about your mental health. Hello and welcome back to the show where we ask you to provide all the content because we have no original ideas.

And also, thank you. We're here for honesty and not originality. Let's go.

Ace underscore Julio underscore A-O. Ow, sorry. What are some ways you can bond as a couple? Ha ha.

I am a fan of this. Do you know what it is? Do you know? I think you know.

Lay on top of them and be quiet. I am not even joking. Just shutting the hell up and laying next to each other like you're puppies or cats or ferrets or.

.. I was going to say fish, but I think fish land on top of each other. I don't know.

I don't know about fish. Um, yeah, shut up and lay next to each other and be physically close or not, if that's your jam. But my jam is I just want to be quiet with you.

I really don't want to talk all that much. I mean, sometimes, yeah, obviously. No, we do.

We do talk. Oh, God. Sorry, false representation of romance.

No, we do talk. But I also think shutting up is really, really, really underrated. I was talking to my counsellor, actually, and I said, oh, God, I'm so boring.

Like, all I want to do is lay down, rest and be quiet. And she was like, I'm going to level with you. I think people would really benefit from doing that more often.

And I was like, thank you for validating my existence and poor taste. So that was really nice. So, yeah, I would say just spend time together.

That could be talking. That could be not talking. That could be laying down.

My personal favourite. Just be in each of the spheres and just enjoy it. If you enjoy it and if you're not enjoying it, that's probably a sign you shouldn't be a couple.

Oh, my words of wisdom being passed down. June, biggest dinner you had. Biggest dinner? Oh, God.

We're including binge eating. Eating disorders are so much fun. By the way, someone once said something to me and I was just like, oh, God.

So they have struggled with food before, as has their entire family. I'm not friends with this person. I'm friends with the sibling of this person.

And they are so hypercritical of what their family members eat. So they've been on a huge health kick and they were like, oh, do you know how many empty calories you're eating every time someone ate like a cake or something? Pretty judgmental and hypocritical.

And then one day they started eating a cake. So my friend, the sibling, said, oh, do you know how many empty calories you're eating? Like as a joke, because they started the joke, just turned around and apparently went, I have an eating disorder.

And it's like, yeah. And you also know how to dish it out and not take. I was just like, oh, man, everybody's got a fucking eating disorder.

Jesus, don't be a dick. It's just I feel like the age of awareness has been so good for so many reasons. There's a lot less shame.

There's a lot more information. But also people are just so quick to be like, I have an eating disorder. I'm autistic.

And it's like, yes, that's valid. But it also doesn't give you license to be a dick. I'm sorry.

Speaking as an autistic dick. Well, I'm sometimes an autistic dick, mostly just an autistic. A tism.

A tism, as we call in our household. A tism, beautiful tism. Yeah, whatever's going on for you doesn't justify terrible human being behavior.

And I think everybody knows that deep down. So even when they say it's like just a defense mechanism of leave me alone. But it's also just like we all say stupid, judgmental things.

We all behave like dicks sometimes. Just try not to do it because other people's feelings matter. And also it'll make you feel better.

Being nice just feels nice. Jesus. Be basic.

Be basic. Oh, my God. I just realized I didn't answer the question.

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I got sidetracked by my own tangents.

Biggest dinner you had? I eat so much. I probably just couldn't.

I'm sorry. I can't. It doesn't come to memory, but I've eaten a lot of food.

I'll just say that. Best meal? It's like music that can't be won because I'm just I'm such a whore.

I just love food so much. I'm sorry. Probably the best thing I ever like.

The thing I crave the most is probably pizza because I am basic and I don't care. And people are like, oh, my God, like you're just so impressed by pizza. Yes.

Yes. And that is a good thing. I love cheese and carbohydrates and tomato sauce, and I love that it makes me happy.

It makes my tummy feel really nice. I like being simple and basic. OK, I'm very defensive about it.

Thank you. See, he likes me basic. He likes me simple.

It's all that matters. A man's validation. Saadran24, what is the one thing you and your partner love to do the most and have you two? Handhold each other? Good God, this is a Christian site.

Your favorite thing to do? Oh, you're so cute. All your answers are always so cute.

You make me look awful. That's not your fault. That's my fault.

Ditto, just being with him. And I know everyone's like, oh, that's so boring and cliche. But I really do mean it in the most literal sense of I just like existing next to him.

So I could be scrolling on my phone, scratching my eczema. He's just like, cool. Love that for you.

Support you a hundred percent, babes. Um, yeah, I just like being with him. And I know that's really boring, but I am boring.

And I'm learning to embrace it and not be like, oh, my God, like, I don't have all these complicated thoughts and I don't have like all these interesting hobbies. It's like, so what? So what? If you like ordering a pizza, eating it, watching Succession, laying on your boyfriend or your girlfriend or whoever, that is good.

That is not a waste of time. If you are happy, it's not a waste of time. OK, stop trying to compete with everybody.

I'm talking to myself as much as I'm talking to anybody else. So please don't feel like I'm condescending to you. I struggle with life so much.

This is not coming from a moral high place. This is just, I just would like it if our brains were nicer to each to each other, to ourselves, to, oh, fuck, God, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

I'll get back to it. We just need to be nicer to ourselves and just be happy with the simplicity of happiness. I don't think happiness is that complicated.

I think we make it complicated. We ruin our own happiness by being like, it's not enough. To the next level, to the next thing, compete, compete, compete.

And it's like, why? Will it actually make you happy? I don't know.

I don't know the answer because I've never competed. Not because I'm holier than thou, just because I have no stamina. Oh, I'm so sorry.

Morten Geibelman, I'm sorry. I don't know how to read. I'm so sorry.

I really like your voice. And my question is, have you ever thought about singing or making your own music? Because I am making music, but my voice is meh.

I bet your voice isn't meh. Everybody that's like, oh, I can't sing. Except for me, because I just listen to me.

La, la, la, I can't sing. I can't sing. I think we can incorporate it into the audios with just like humming and stuff, because I don't think it really matters whether you can sing or not in that context.

I think people are just like, ah, soothing, calm. It's kind of like when your mum sings to you and your mum's not a good singer, but it's just nice because she's your mum, I think. I always have this thing about singing, like, because apparently everybody can become a good singer, it's just practice.

And it's a bit like learning to play a musical instrument. Some people have an affinity for it and they're just naturally inclined that way. But it is just practice, practice, practice, like art.

It would be very cool to be able to sing, but I just don't think I'm going to put enough time and energy into it. So, do you know when I do sing, though? I do sing in the car, all the way down the motorway.

Here's the nodding. I do. And it is glorious and off-key and amazing and very liberating.

And I advise everybody to do it. Just let go. Just use the time in the car to be like, feelings, I have them.

And I shall sing them off-key. But that's really sweet. And I hope you carry on with the music because creating things can be fun.

Funflame, what languages have you learned or would love to learn and why? Oh, this is where I disappoint everyone, but surprise no one. I speak Anglais.

I speak English kind of well, kind of OK. And I would really love to learn Japanese because I am a secret anime dog. Not even a weeaboo.

Not even, not even cool enough to be a weeaboo. Just, oh, used to like anime. Used to.

And I say used to not because it's something to be ashamed of, because I just think at this point, everybody watches anime. It's not, I just have kind of, it's not my thing anymore. And I really loved the memories and I loved watching it when I watched it.

But now I'm just like, give me basic stuff. Give me HBO. So yeah, I really would love to learn Japanese.

I actually am doing Duolingo Japanese lessons if they count. People are like, they don't count. They're not real lessons.

It's like, it's a bit of fun. It's a bit of fun when you're winding down, your brain won't let you sleep. Dalton Remy, I want you to make a water sports audio.

I love jet skiing. Uh, yeah, sure. I've never been on a jet ski.

I wonder if it's fun or terrifying. Have you been on one? When have you been on one? Ah, secret holidays before you knew me.

That life didn't exist. No, I'm kidding. Was it fun? Oh, okay.

Maybe I'll go on one eventually. Maybe we'll make an audio about that. What actually is water sports with sexing? Is it peeing on people? What? Is it? Yeah, okay.

I don't really, I know he's joking. Whoever sent this, Dalton sent this in. I don't get the whole peeing thing.

I'm not judging. I don't give a shit what makes you cum. I don't care.

I just don't get it. It's like, also, I probably wouldn't be able to pee on command, you know, if someone was like, do it. And I'd be like, no, I'm scared.

In a nutshell, no, I'm scared. Do you know, I once said that to a teacher. I raised my hand in the class and they frightened the living shit out of me, this teacher.

And I really liked them. They were really nice and respectful, but they just scared me because I'm pathetic. And he went, you, go.

And I went, I can't. And he was like, what? I was like, I can't.

You've scared me. And I wasn't young. I was about 16.

So, yeah. Rollo Tony 97 advised on how to function in a genuine loving relationship when you have pretty darn close to crippling anxiety. Be honest, but also try to be brave.

I think there's a lot of worth in admitting that you're scared and admitting that you're like, I find everything anxious and I'm just constantly in a state of fight or flight. But I also think you should try and challenge that when you can, because that is growth. And I'm so sorry that I think that is ultimately the truth.

I think we all struggle with different things and that doesn't invalidate your struggle. Anxiety is fucking awful and exhausting. You just think, shut up, shut up.

There is no tiger. You are inventing a tiger brain. But I also think we should try when we feel we can, because that's kind of the point of being a person.

It's like, I tried. Even if it doesn't work out, I've tried. Can I just let everybody know, I try a lot and it doesn't work out a lot.

And that can be really frustrating. But then I think about the alternative of like, well, what would happen if you just didn't try? And it's like, well, just sit there in despair.

And I don't really want to sit there in despair. And I know that's not a very analytical look at mental health and how to overcome barriers. But that is just my, as my dear mum would say, just get up and have a try.

Just get up and have a try. Have a banana. Go for a walk.

And I know everybody's rolling their eyes and being like, don't you fucking tell me to go for a walk. It doesn't immediately fix things. I know.

I know. It doesn't immediately fix things. There is no such thing as a quick fix.

I'm sorry. I really wish there was, but I really don't think there is. So what we can do is communicate honestly, do what we can do, try, be nice to people and eat pizza.

And that really is all I've got. I'm sorry. I don't, I don't have any more.

I really hope you find a nice relationship where you can be like, I'm an anxious fuck. And they're like, I know, me too. That's what I found.

I love that you're an anxious fuck. I couldn't be with somebody who's stable. What will we talk about? Not.

How has your personal or professional journey shaped your perspective on what a podcast is? What is the most important lesson you've learned in your career? And how has it influenced your approach to your work? How do you measure success in your relationship? And what indicators do you use to track progress? Goodness gracious, these are serious questions.

How has your personal and professional journey shaped your perspective on what a podcast is? A podcast is just somebody rambling and then the person who's listening to it being like, I enjoyed that. I enjoyed your nonsense.

That is my take. It's a very simple take. I know there'll be very impressive podcasts where people share analytics, optics, thoroughly groundbreaking stuff.

That is not what this is. And do you know what? That doesn't invalidate it.

We love simplicity. We love basicness. We love people just needing a slice of life, bullshit, nonsense, fluffball.

And that is the market I am taking over by storm with the help of my boyfriend because he has a much better personality. Yes, that is the first question. What is the most important lesson you've learned in your career and how has it influenced your approach to your work?

It'll either get done or it won't. That's kind of a serious answer. We put so much pressure on ourselves to do this, meet this deadline, exceed, exceed, exceed.

And then it's just kind of like, I don't want that to be my life. And I know that sounds like a cop out to some people. It's like, oh, you just can't compete.

You're right. I can't compete. This is why I don't have social media.

This is why I don't socialize heavily. This is why I'm not like, here's a picture of me. Here's a picture of me.

Here's a picture of me. I can't compete. And my brain knows that.

And I know that. And I don't want to be part of it. So I don't put myself in that situation.

And some people will find that a cop out and some people will be like, no, I actually relate to that. And that's your choice. And it's like, that's what I'm going on.

Yeah, don't, don't worry about it too much. If you really can. And I know that'll be a really big struggle for a lot of people.

It really doesn't matter that much. So if anybody tries to make you feel like you should be progressing this way, you're wasting your potential. Just fuck them.

Just, you know what's important to you, even if you're not in a good headspace. And people might be coming at this angle from a good place, they might be like, no, you need to do this. Or you know, you're so talented.

And I get that. And I get that people have good intentions. I've said that to people before, and I'm now thinking, oh God, they probably just thought shut up.

And you're right to and that's okay. Just, just know that it's work. If it's worked to you, and it's certainly worked to me, do what you can try and don't make it your identity because you're not your job.

Sorry if that's a very uninspiring answer. How do you measure success in your relationship? And what indicators do you use to track progress? Has there been a murder? No, no GBH, no assault, no blackmailing or controlling or ridiculousness that would you say? Yeah, can you stand being near each other for periods of time? I would say that is success.

Do you add to each other's lives? Are you good for each other? Is it majoritatively a nice time? Because this narrative about like, people don't work at relationships, and there is some truth.

But also, it's like, no, people don't need to stay in relationships that are terrible for them and their offspring. And they know that now. Coming from a very fucked up place, it's not better for the kids.

It's just not. All these stories about, we're staying together for the kids. The kids know that you're not supposed to be together.

They sense the tension. They see what's going on. And if there's abuse, you're not hiding it.

As best as you try, you are not hiding it. It can't be hidden. It is insidious.

The children will learn to spot it. If it's not on the most obvious physical side, they'll see it. They'll breathe it.

They'll learn survival coping mechanisms in that situation. And do you really want that for your kids? This sounds very high-handed.

I'm not planning on having children. But I just, this narrative about like, nobody wants the newbie of family anymore. And it's like, some people do.

I would say a large majority still do. But also, it's okay to have alternative ways. Just mind your business.

Sort yourself out. What was the question? Oh, progress.

Are you growing together? Are you making each other happy? It really is that simple for me.

If it's majoritively not good, that is a sign that it's not good. And if it's majoritively good, that is a sign that it's good. Yeah.

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