Sex Coach [M4F] [Clinic sex]

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Hey, come on in, nice to meet you, please take the couch, and you're welcome to lock the door if it makes you feel more comfortable, but nobody will interrupt the session, and you know what happens here stays here. And also, please just know that nothing you can do or throw at me will offend me. If anything, I'm hoping you'll open up more than you usually would.

So, I've looked into your file a few times now, and I'm aware of everything you said about yourself, especially the issues with sex, which seem to come down to some shyness around body image, and finding it difficult to let go, and really get aroused and orgasm with a partner, and that's the main thing you wanted to work through, is that right? Perfect. Well, as you saw with the consultancy contract, I don't prescribe medication, I don't give you heavy counselling sessions, or teach Kegel exercises, or make you watch educational videos, or any of that kind of thing.

There's just one thing I do, and I'm guessing you heard that it worked for someone else, or why would you be here, right? Okay, so I'm gonna be a bit like a sounding board, or like a gym workout partner, or maybe you could think of yourself as being on an exchange programme, and I'm like your surrogate partner, or something like that. I'll just help you get reacquainted with your body, and you'll help me stay acquainted with mine too.

So, yeah, our ultimate goal is to become relaxed enough to enjoy our bodies, and each other's presence, so that you'll be able to transfer that confidence to other relationships, and I'll be able to grow in confidence too, and understand more about you, and sexuality in general. Does that sound like a good goal? Great.

Won't be a second. Okay, um, so I'll be checking in with you to make sure you're happy, but if at any point you feel you want the session to go no further, just say, you know, I've had enough for now, or I'm feeling awkward, or whatever comes to mind, and we'll end the session calmly, and it'll be up to you to make another appointment if you want to continue in the future. Does that sound okay? Great.

Well, there are two important issues you described in your file. There was shyness around certain aspects of your body, and there was difficulty with getting aroused and orgasming with a partner, so I'd like to address the issue of body shyness first, because it might help to ease us into the second issue. Actually, body image, it's one of the things I seem to address the most, because it's an area everyone seems to struggle with.

I'm sure I don't need to remind you how bombarded we are, you know, all of us, with media images, and beauty ideals, but as much as we know so much of it's unreal, I think it kind of wears us down so much that we can't help think that at least some of it must be real, and then we kind of start to focus on people who appear to be more beautiful, or important, or happy, or in our minds worthwhile than we are, right? Eight out of ten women say they give out important commitments, like meetings, or events with friends, because they don't feel good about their appearance. So how to address it, right? Well, I can say it's not a battle that's fought once, and then won.

It's a matter of every day needing to surround ourselves with others who are realistic, and honest, and who we can see going through the same issues as we are. So the first part of this session will be showing you that you're not alone, how you feel about your body, so that together we can begin to break down the barriers between us, and deal with the matter of sexual arousal and function. First up, I can say with all objectivity that you are very beautiful, but I know it's meaningless so I tell you that without actually showing you.

So to do that, we'll have to be a little vulnerable together. So take a deep breath, exhale, and just look at me. Look at every part of me you can see.

You might be looking at me and thinking, he carries himself as if he knows he's knowledgeable and experienced. Maybe as if he looks after his body, as if he's confident, not really vulnerable in any way. Okay, but what would happen if I took my shirt off in front of you right now? I suddenly look more human, right? You can see my skin.

And can you sense the change in my behavior? Yeah, I naturally want to cover myself because I don't know you so well, and no matter how knowledgeable and experienced you might think I am, or I might think I am, I don't know how you're gonna respond. Like, you might think, okay this guy's crazy or inappropriate or some kind of exhibitionist.

And besides that, I have my own body issues. Like right now, how do I feel? Okay, I'll just name a couple.

So I feel a little self-conscious about a couple of new freckly spots on my chest I got over summer, because I guess they're a reminder that I don't have the skin of a 16 year old anymore. Or there's the way my stomach bunches up when I'm sitting down. But I guess for me, from practice, I can quickly acknowledge these things.

Just take a deep breath and remind myself that we all have body issues and that I need to love myself regardless, you know. So if I start to feel embarrassed, I ask myself if fear should make me stop enjoying my body. So, you know, as long as you're comfortable, I'm gonna take it a step further and I'm gonna remove my pants.

So I'm only in my underwear. Is that okay? Okay, cool.

So you might have seen I blushed a little bit. It's kind of hard to tell from my skin tone, but I felt my face get warm. Because again, I'm a little self-conscious about my body.

Like, I've always had longer than average legs. And when I was a kid, I got called a giraffe, among other things. But also, I feel vulnerable with you because our level of dress and exposure is mismatched, right? And because I really, I don't know what you're thinking.

My past experience and knowledge at this point is pretty meaningless. You might be thinking this has gone too far. This guy's actually a little crazy.

And fair enough, maybe I am. But bear with me. Just, in your mind, try to find one thing you find attractive about me.

Anything at all. I don't need to wait long or even need to ask you if you thought of something. Because by nature, people, especially women, can easily see the beauty in everyone else, but not in themselves.

Okay, so this is the point where the session might need to come to an end if you feel uncomfortable. But I really think it would help if you take your clothes off and leave only your lingerie on. Are you comfortable enough with me to do that? Maybe? Probably? You are? Great.

Okay, we'll take your time. There's no hurry. All right, are you still feeling okay? A little shy, of course.

And maybe wondering if you're as crazy as I am. No, that's fine. That's completely natural.

But look at how amazingly you're doing already. You're literally sitting with someone who's mostly a stranger to you, and you're confident enough to strip to your underwear. Did you know you had that inside you? Anyway, in your mind, tell me one thing you're insecure about.

Just one, and don't say it aloud. Just in your mind. And again, just in your mind, do you want to tell me why you think it might make you unattractive to me?

Okay, well I can answer whatever you've said by saying that I'm like you. I'm not a perfectionist looking for a body that meets some crazy ideal of beauty. In fact, the very idea of encountering a body like that would make me very unsettled and unnerved because it would seem uncanny to me, unreal, unlike anything I've ever seen, you know?

So I'm sure you also find beauty in natural individuality and the unique shapes of bodies. And I'm sure, like me, you find that beauty far more easily in others' bodies than maybe you do in your own. For example, it would take me all day to name the things I immediately found attractive about you.

But it's time to leave aside thinking about our bodies right now and see if you're ready to talk about the sexual aspects. Is that okay? Okay.

Well, we all have difficulties sharing our bodies with a partner at times, especially when we're feeling insecure about our appearance or performance. But most of the time we're still able to pleasure ourselves, right? Would you be willing to show me with your hands which areas of your body give you the most pleasure? Are you a little shy about that? Just take a deep breath and ask yourself how comfortable you feel.

And if you're not sure, ask yourself if it's just fear preventing you from enjoying your body or whether it's genuine discomfort or another reason. Would it help if I joined you and touched my body in those areas too? Yeah.

Just tell me if anything makes you uncomfortable, okay? So I often put this hand on my chest like this and like I'm kneading bread, grip it and massage it. Have you done that too sometimes? Yeah, you can show me.

Don't worry if your nipples respond. Mine are too. It's just the body's natural response.

Yeah, it's a good thing. It's just arousal. It's all perfectly normal and if you're uncomfortable at any point we can stop, okay? Yeah.

So another thing I like to do is separate my legs a little and run my other hand up the inside of my thigh like this. Yeah, you too. You can show me.

And I can tease it all around the most sensitive parts of my body down there and yeah, that's quite arousing. Yeah, that's fine. Yeah, oh that's good.

You can arouse your body by touching through your panties there. Yeah. Let's do that for a moment.

Uh Do you feel comfortable sharing this moment with me? You can put your fingers inside your panties too if you want. Will that make you shy? Okay.

Would it help if I did it to myself too? Yeah, of course. Look at how confident you're being.

How does it feel? For me, just having you here with me, I feel so open and erotic. Is it nice for you to be doing this with me too? Yeah.

Can you see how aroused my body got seeing your hands come into your panties? Can you feel any tingles or dampness between your legs? My body feels very electric right now.

There's a feeling deep inside that wants to come out. Do you feel that too? Yeah.

Would you be comfortable with me encouraging you to try bringing yourself to an orgasm here with me? You would? And would you rather we do it in our underwear? Would it help if we were naked? You're not sure? Maybe we could just try being naked and if it feels uncomfortable we can dress a little again? Yeah.

Should we try that? Okay. Is everything okay? Are you comfortable with being naked and seeing how aroused each other are? Yeah.

You can watch me touch myself if you like. Yeah. Yeah.

You can look. I'm just going to start rubbing myself. Yeah.

And just pulling this soft skin up and down. Yeah. Oh yeah.

You can show me how you touch yourself too. We can enjoy watching each other, okay? Yeah.

Don't be shy about your body. It looks so pretty. Can you see how when I stroke myself the skin glides up and down here? Yeah.

It's just building and building tension in my body. That part of your body is incredibly beautiful to me. Mm-hmm.

When you put your finger on your clit. I can't help but imagine what it feels like. All swollen like that.

Yeah. Imagine pressing my fingers down onto it and feeling it slipping around there. Yeah.

And just then when you traced your finger through those lips, separated them. Yeah. Did you see my cock throat? Yeah.

Open that little pink place and show me your finger going inside. Oh my god. That's good.

Is it nice to see the way my body responds to yours? Yeah. You can imagine what it would feel like to touch me too.

Mm-hmm. Feel the ripple of my cock as you draw your hand all the way up it. And imagine what it feels like dragging your fingers right up over the smooth skin on the edge of my cock.

Yeah. And how easily it would slide into your palm. You know you can imagine anything you want to with me, right? But you can safely know that our fantasies are fantasies, okay? Would you like to hear what I'm fantasizing about doing with you? You would? Don't worry.

I won't try to make it happen anywhere except in our minds, okay? Yeah. So just relax while I talk and keep touching yourself and watching me stroke myself.

Okay. Yeah. So I've just been enjoying watching you, listening to the sounds our bodies are making and imagining what it would be like to feel your fingers on me, drawing my cock up and down, and what it would feel like to rub all that wetness around your swollen clut.

Is that okay? And now I'm going to imagine what it would be like to lie you down on the couch there and to touch your beautiful breasts while I place my cock between your legs. Is that okay? Do you want me to carry on? Yeah.

Then now I'll imagine holding your nipples between my fingers and moving my hips so my cock begins to slide against those soft wet pussy lips of yours and riding up to where your fingers on your clit. Is that okay? Can you imagine? That would feel nice.

And I can feel how wet your pussy is on my cock and I start drawing that honey up over your clit. Yeah. Can you imagine sliding closer and closer to your little entrance? Is that okay? Open your legs a little more so I can watch your fingers on your pussy.

Yeah. That's it. Probe it and play with it for me.

Yeah. I want us to watch each other come soon. Is that okay? Oh good.

I want to see your wet fingers and the details of your pussy trembling and throbbing as you orgasm there. Can I imagine I'm sliding this throbbing cock inside you now? Oh yeah.

Imagine it with me. Smooth tapered head on my cock squeezing into your little pink opening. There.

Puck easing and stretching you open. And disappearing right into you. I'm feeling your pussy close around it.

I have to feed it in and out of your body now. Would that feel good? Is that okay?