Pregnancy Series: Good Morning Mrs. Baldwin

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Baby, why you keep moving away from me? You know I'm trying to cuddle up next to you. I can't sleep unless you're next to me.

What time is it? Oh, it's 6.30 in the morning. Mm-mm, don't give me that look.

No, baby, it's your turn. Mm-mm, it is your turn. You gotta get your baby ready for daycare.

And you gotta take care of daddy. Mm-mm. Mm.

Don't you just miss those days where we used to lay up for hours in the morning? And we used to talk and eat breakfast in bed and just make love all morning? Well, welcome to parenthood.

Oh, man, but this is beautiful as well. Yeah. I mean, I've always enjoyed, like, the moments that we share together.

But, wow, fatherhood, it's just so amazing. You got jokes, I see. It's so amazing.

Go get the baby ready. Got you. Well, the baby hasn't made any noises, and I'm looking on the monitor.

He's sound asleep, so I think we can relax for a little bit. I don't work today. You don't work today.

So let's just drop the baby off at daycare and lay up and enjoy each other all day. Pick the baby up at 3 o'clock and, you know, resume with the day. Yeah, we can do some things that you like.

You know, I was thinking about going to the day spa. Yeah, we'll get you a little treatment done, and when your treatment is finished, we can just, I don't know, maybe get a nice brunch or something. Okay? Of course you can.

You want to lay on my chest? Okay. You're so beautiful.

Even with your morning breath and the crust in your eyes and that bonnet on your head, I still think you're so beautiful. I love you so much. You've made me so happy.

I just appreciate you for who you are in my life. I told you so many times that I never thought I'd ever have a really healthy relationship that was, like, grounded in reciprocity, honesty, loyalty, true love, and a commitment to working through things. I got to admit, it really took a long time for me to learn my worth and value.

Well, I think I used to stay in relationships a lot longer than I should, and I think that could be problematic for anybody. Well, people treat you the way that you allow, and I was allowing a lot of crazy things to take place because I guess at that time I was afraid to be alone, or maybe I was seeking the attention and validation from my partners because I wasn't putting that real love into myself. Yeah.

Yeah, well, that's true also, but through therapy and just a desire to want to move away from my attachment style to be more secure, I developed more self-love. I started going out more and putting more into myself and watching what I eat and going to the gym and just doing different things to kind of build me up. And then when I arrived at this beautiful place of awareness, lo and behold, the love of my life comes.

And I think that's a true testament to how God works, how the universe works. Oftentimes we say we want these amazing people in our life, but we wasn't prepared for them. If we get them when we're not ready, we'll end up losing them.

You have to become amazing first before you receive amazing. If you want amazing to work, then baby, you are the definition of amazing. Well, a non-physical thing about you that I love.

I think you're so hilarious. I think you have the most beautiful and outgoing personality in the world. And it contrasts and complements my personality perfectly because I'm more adaptable.

Like I can walk in a room and get everyone's attention. I could be very outgoing, but I also can be very reserved and laid back. And I think that's a beautiful thing as well.

Like you have to know how to adapt at times. But you, when you walk in a room, you take the attention. You keep the attention for several reasons.

Your beautiful personality, but also your beauty. You're one of the most beautiful women I ever laid my eyes on. Your eyes, I just get lost in your eyes.

And you got such a beautiful and kind spirit. Your heart is hard gold. I've never seen someone so committed and dedicated to their family like you.

Your loyalty is otherworldly. I mean, you're the only woman in this whole world that I ever trust completely. I mean, even my mom, I just, I've never seen someone so dedicated to everything.

When you commit yourself to something, it's for a lifetime. And I love that. No, I'm definitely not saying that because I know for a fact if something wasn't meeting your standards, you have the ability to walk away because you know you're worth and value.

But if you're committed and you're in it and you make that vow or that commitment, you can take that to the bank. And I love that quality about you. Also, I feel like you're so intelligent.

You are driven and passionate about the things that you love and you desire. And that makes me really gravitate to you. Yeah, I do.

And not to mention that you are fine as hell. Like, I love me a fine-ass woman. I love me a fine-ass, 90's fine kind of woman.

I talk about that all the time, baby. You are 90's fine. Jesus.

I love that. Yeah, I know. What was one thing about me that you felt like you gravitated to? Let's go like non-physical.

Oh, really? My dominance and leadership ability. Okay.

Do tell. Elaborate. Oh, you like that, huh? Yeah, I think, um, I really don't know.

I think I've always just been that way. Like, I've never been one to take the backseat. Um, and I've always advocated for myself.

So, I guess naturally being dominant and being confident without being aggressive or an asshole is a beautiful quality to have. Yeah, I know how to take the lead. I know how to make plans.

I know how to ensure that everything is going to go the right way. I know how to provide. And I do know how to take charge.

So, yeah. I appreciate you, baby. I love you so much.

Thank you so much for your continued sacrifices. And thank you for adding to my existing happiness. I tell you the same things over and over all the time.

But every time that I tell you, it's from the heart. It's real. It's genuine.

It's sincere. And you really made me the happiest man in this world. I told you, um, like, it wasn't that I gave up on love.

It's like, um, I think the reality of how people navigate life really set in. And the idea of you being a great person, so you expect the same out of your partner. But it's not always that way.

Everybody has a different experience, upbringing, background, traumas, things that they have to heal through and work through. So, I can't expect everyone to have the capacity to forgive or be diligent in a relationship or have loyalty or honesty and integrity the way that I may have it. And just trying to relinquish that level of, quote-unquote, control.

Because we can't make people do anything. The only power that we have is our ability to control ourselves and respond to the things that do happen to us. So, I'm just grateful that I was able to meet a woman who is dedicated, if not more dedicated, to making it work and loving in a healthy way and valuing loyalty.