Meditation for a Bad Day

Transcript

So, I had a thought today that I've expressed one way with a very playful, very audio, role-play kind of recording, now I wanted to address the same thing, but from a little more of a serious point of view. And that was the idea, I said to somebody today that I wanted to be that soothing voice for people at the end of the day when they've had a hard day. Or to that guy who is stuck alone in his apartment because of COVID and like, lives in a different state than his family and, you know, can't really hang out with his friends and he's just bored.

Or, you know, that girl that has a lot of questions and just needs a friend to talk to but doesn't know who to talk to. I want to be that friend. I don't know why.

It just, this, for me, what I do, I just want to make everybody feel better, happier, healthier, more in tune and centered with themselves, who they are, more gentle with themselves. We are all so hard on ourselves and yet in some ways we're not hard enough on ourselves. We have lost this essential balance somewhere along the line.

Maybe it's humanity, we never thought we had it or we had it and lost it, I'm not really quite sure. You know, we berate ourselves day in and day out for stupid shit that sometimes we don't have any control over. And so often we don't hold ourselves accountable for things we damn well know we could have done but we just didn't feel like it.

And I want to be that person who just says, stop, take a deep breath. It's going to be okay. Things are going to get better.

Maybe not immediately, maybe not tomorrow. But what you need to do is breathe through it, think about it, look at it logically. What really can you do? We cannot fix the state of the world the way we'd like to by waving a magic wand and make it be the way we want.

That's not how it works. And yes, there's probably little things we could do that seem tedious and hard, but they need to get done. But you can't do them if you are so emotionally drained because of just trying to get through the day in and day out.

So I want to be the one that says, stop, take a deep breath. Just let it go for a minute. Collect the energy you need to tackle those things.

Let go of the shit that you cannot handle, that you have no way to really deal with. Just let it all go for just right now. Just let it, just think water off a duck's back.

That's what I usually think when I start meditating. I start imagining all the problems I have, just like, just water off a duck's back. Can you just imagine like a duck's back almost feeling like an oil slick and water just zooming right off of it.

That's usually like when it is my mental technique of trying to imagine negative feelings or whatever's bothering me during the day. Something that my mom said, something that, you know, a friend said that got under my skin or relative, one of my crazy ass relatives said, just think, okay, water off a duck's back. Just let it go, it can't touch me, it can't attach to me, it's just sliding off of me.

I'm just letting it go because I can't deal with it right now. I don't have to deal with it right now. I can deal with it later.

Right now is for me. Right now is my moment to breathe. Tell yourself it's okay.

It's going to be okay. You're going to get through it. Now, if you are in an unsafe place and you are not alone, this is where you stop this recording and go back to doing whatever you were doing.

Chances are, though, you know precisely where these go. So I'm going to assume that you are someplace comfortable and alone and just lay down, relax, get to whatever level of comfort is good for you. If you want to be totally stark ass naked in bed with like nothing on you, you do you.

If you're not quite there and you just want to be under the covers, that's cool. You feel better in just a t-shirt, tank top, whatever makes you comfortable but gives you decent access to your body. And just lay down, relax.

Usually when I go to meditation classes and stuff, they tell me lay with your legs straight or maybe put a pillow on your knees so they're slightly bent. I automatically almost always when I'm laying down to be comfortable either sit semi with my ankles crossed or cross-legged or nine times out of ten, I just automatically put the palms of my feet together, the palms of your feet, the base of your feet, I guess, the bottoms of your feet and just like let my legs fall open, which I guess if I did have a blanket over me would look like the sluttiest pose of all time. It's like, hey, look, and there's my cooch, congratulations.

But fortunately there's usually a blanket over me when I lay like that. But it's, I don't know why, it's just the most comfortable position I can think of. I'll just lay back on my pillows and sit with my toes pressed, like holding paws, I don't know, holding palms, holding feet, just relax, just let it all go.

Is it gone? Well, I don't know about you, but for me, after I've had a long and trying day, I usually need some form of release. I can't just lay and breathe and try to meditate and think it's all going to be better.

I need some kind of physical break from all of the tension. So if you're like me, I want you to just keep breathing, I want you to try to keep that breathing as long and deep as you can, I want you to get as comfortable as you can. I want you to make sure that you have eaten, make sure you do have water beside you or something to drink, it's usually a good thing too, stay hydrated, and just slowly run your hands over your body.

Take a moment to be kind to it, thank it for getting you through the day. One more day, it's hard, but it was one more day, and now's the time to thank it, you know you appreciate it, so it's going to get ready to get you through another one tomorrow, and hopefully tomorrow will be better, and if it's not, you can come right back here and we'll go through this again. I always say that your body is your outfit for this lifetime, it's your vessel, it's your car, you have to take care of it as best you can, and if nothing else, you need to remind yourself and your body that it's the only one you got this lifetime, and if it's unhealthy, you're unhealthy, if it's hurting, you're hurting, and usually if you are hurting inside emotionally, mentally, it does show up in your body too, so it's a very symbiotic relationship, so literally if you are stressed out, if you are just feeling at the end of your rope, the best thing you can do for yourself is find a quiet place and make yourself come.

It releases all of the happy juices in your brain, get a little endorphins going, a little adrenaline, everything is better with an orgasm, and literally there is scientific proof that says if you are just a basket case, not literally just taking the time to go and realign your chakras so to speak by grabbing a toy or stroking yourself or rubbing your clit or however you get off, it makes you healthier, so now that you're all reclined and you're deep breathing and you're relaxing and you're running your hands over your body, if you're the type of person that likes your nipples rubbed, give them a little attention, let them know that, you know, you like them too, and then just take your hands and put them where they really need to be, and let's be honest, nobody knows how to make us come better than ourselves, right? Oh, don't get me wrong, some of our partners know very different and wonderful ways to make us come almost as hard, but when it comes to playing with ourselves, to using toys or masturbating, nobody knows how to touch you the way you know how to touch you. It's like right now what I really am loving is just rolling my nipple between my fingers, just letting my bottom half of my body just writhe while I feel the sensations, it's like every twist and pinch of my nipple I can almost feel an echo of it right against my clit even though nothing's touching it.

I have made myself come just by playing with my wrists more times than I can count, especially when I tie them up tight in ropes until they're, oh, they're just bulging their skin so tight and firm. I love putting nipple clamps on their nipples and making them look so pretty and decorated, oh, but it also makes every part of them so sensitive. It makes me so wet to see someone play with them while they're tied up and clipped like that.

It's so easy to make me calm just by playing with them, just by running your fingertips over them or your knuckles. I just had a tiny little baby orgasm just run through me just as I was playing with my titties. Oh, it felt so good.

I don't know about you, but I'm already starting to feel so much more relaxed. And I love doing this with you. I love being the voice in your ear, reminding you to take time to touch yourself, to really make yourself feel good, because you need it.

You've earned it. You deserve it. You got through another really long day.

The world's hard right now. So you should take this minute to just start touching yourself the way you are.