July 2021 Q&A

Transcript

Hey Moonbeams, it's time for another Q&A. This is the one for July 2021. Just to remind you the old ones are still up on the Patreon, and I mean they will be, so May, June, and then you can always listen to the old ones over on YouTube.

And there should be links in the in the Q&A question form. This time around, I didn't get a whole lot of questions from y'all. And so what I did is I pulled some questions from Curious Cat and I'll still answer those on there, but I won't tweet the answers.

So I'll limit the number of folks that find out about those answers. But make sure you're thinking of all sorts of questions for me because I'll be doing this monthly. So let's dive right into it.

I was asked, what movie could you watch over and over? For some reason, I just really love the movie Ocean's Eleven. The one with George Clooney.

I mean, I've seen the original, the one from way back when. Very different movie. But the one with George Clooney and Brad Pitt and Matt Damon and I mean that whole Don Cheadle and the whole the Bernie Mac and just it's a great cast.

Terrific cast. And I just love it. The whole I mean, they just nailed it.

It's funny. It's got a little bit of action in it. It's silly.

They have the Rat Pack soundtrack just perfect. So chef kiss on that movie. Do you have any guilty pleasures? If so, what are they? I do.

I mean, who doesn't really? I mean, show me someone without guilty pleasures and I'll show you someone who works way too hard. Video games.

I do some PC gaming. I've got a PlayStation 2, 3 and 4. Don't have a 5 yet, but I'll probably get one.

I don't game as much as I used to, but I still do plenty of that. And then I'm honest, really, really long showers. So like if you notice that the level of the ocean has dropped a little bit, you can bet that Matt took a shower.

So they're not all like that, but sometimes and honestly, part of it is just to loosen up because I get tense through my shoulders and just sitting in that hot water just loosens them up and it's just so nice. What will never go out of fashion? Well, a few things.

Manners and courtesy will never go out of fashion. White dress shirts and sundresses. They may change a bit.

They may look different from era to era, but they're never going out of style. And you may hear me drinking from my water bottle as I do this. First thing you look for when meeting a new person.

You know, honestly, the first time I meet someone. Well, it depends if I'm meeting them in person. The very first thing I notice is their appearance.

I mean, how can you not? That's the only thing you have to go on before they open their mouth. Now, that's not to say you judge them by their appearance, but you do notice it.

If I'm meeting someone online, then the first thing I notice is the way they interact. And so it's kind of an opposite thing, you know, whereas with people that I meet in person, I see their physical appearance first and then I do pick up on how they treat others. As you know, I do try to treat others with kindness and I notice when people don't.

My oldest favorite movie. Okay, so y'all may know of the Marx Brothers comedians from a bygone era. Their movie, A Night at the Opera is one of the best movies, in my opinion, that's ever been made.

It was made in 1935. That is hilarious. I've seen it probably a couple dozen times.

I could quote you entire passages of the movie and it's just so funny every single time. So I highly recommend go out and listen or watch the Marx Brothers. Watch A Night at the Opera.

The big story is really good. A Day at the Races is really good. Duck Soup is really good.

But A Night at the Opera is my very favorite. All right. An unpopular personal opinion or taste.

And the the the asterisk here was like nothing too personal or too controversial. Just something I like that other people don't. Well, this one I won't say is unpopular, but it's controversial.

And that is that contrary to the audio, I do like pineapple on pizza. So and as you know, the world is divided into two camps, the do's and do nots. And so that's I guess that's unpopular with a certain group of people, but a sizable group at that.

And then one of my pet peeves, and I am going to get maybe a little bit controversial here, but I apologize if that's the case. I notice sexism. I notice when it's leveled against women, and I notice when it's leveled against men.

And unfortunately, in our society, it has become acceptable to mock men in the name of humor in a way that you would not be allowed to mock a woman. And rightly so. Rightly so that you shouldn't mock her that way.

But what's offensive directed at one sex should be offensive directed at the other. You know, I don't think that we should I think that people, regardless of our gender should be on a level playing field there. And, and so it does irk me when men are, you know, the idiot dad on a sitcom surrounded by sarcastic women who treat him like dirt, just kind of rubs me the wrong way.

What is your happy place? I would say it's being in the presence of my loved ones. And by that I mean my family and my very close friends, people that I love people that love me.

And if I'm going for solitude, then my happy place is to put on some good headphones and just lose myself in my music. I've always been very musically inclined, took instrument lessons as a kid. As some of you know, I can sing and, and I have a collection.

I mean, I don't really need it anymore because Spotify, but I have a collection of thousands upon thousands of tracks that I collected legally paid for over the course of, of my life. And, and yeah, I just very, very much love music. And I love all kinds of music.

I tend towards rock and hard rock. But I listen to all sorts of stuff as long as it shows talent as long as it's good. And yeah.

All right. Well, here we go. Music preferred music to sing along to in the car.

Anything I know the words to really, but Bohemian Rhapsody has special meaning to me for personal reasons. And actually just to relive some of those, those events that gave it meaning in my life. I popped in my headphones on the way out of work to my car today and listened to that song.

So great song to begin with, but then it also has special meaning to me. How would you react if someone recognized your voice and asked if you're Moonlight Audio? Who? Like, who the hell is that? I don't know.

Boyfriend audios? Sounds weird. Totally, totally weird.

I just, I mean, what could I do, right? Yeah. Okay.

Well, someone asks what advice I have for someone getting into their first relationship. First off, I don't believe that the purpose of dating is to get married because that suggests that marriage is the end point and then you don't date anymore. I think the purpose of dating is to get to know and court your partner and that that doesn't need to stop.

You know, I've seen couples that have really, really good relationships, couples that have been together for many, many, many years that still look like teenagers in love. And, um, and the way they do it is by utter devotion to each other and continuing to court each other, continuing to, um, not, not get into a routine where, Oh, you're familiar. So I can, you know, I can take you for granted, but you know, really putting each other first going on dates.

Um, so that's very important. It's important to continue courting your partner. Take your time.

You don't need to rush into things. Uh, get to know your partner, get to really know them, especially if we make big commitments. Um, and just be chill and enjoy the relationship, you know, don't put too much pressure on it.

Uh, because if it doesn't work out, you know, well, ultimately I don't think that there's any one person in this world of 6 billion people that you could be happy with. And if you miss that shot, well, you're just screwed. Um, so get the, take the time to get to know your partner and, and, um, enjoy the relationship, enjoy the ride, enjoy the journey.

Um, and then don't do anything that you don't want to do. Don't let a partner, you know, don't, don't get pressured into doing things you don't want to do just to save the relationship. Don't get pressured into doing things you don't want to do because other people in or outside the relationship expected of you, quote unquote, know where your boundaries are and let your partner know that they need to respect them.

Don't be afraid to call them out if they cross your boundaries. Um, and then listen to your partner, be generous to your partner, uh, be willing to sacrifice your needs for theirs. Um, and it really helps to have compatible love languages.

And speaking of which next question is, what is your love language? My biggest love language is physical touch. So, you know, fingernails scratching inside of my forearm, um, hand on the back of my neck as, as, as, as we sit there, um, you know, that sort of thing.

Those just, those are ways that it says, I love you, Matt. That's what it says. Um, and then I'd say my, my secondary one is words of affirmation.

Um, the best first date you've been on that is a tough one. Uh, and so I'm going to go the exact opposite. I'm going to tell you the worst, worst first date I've been on.

So my very first date when I was a teenager, um, my parents had a rule that, uh, we, you know, up until a certain age, um, all dates had to be double dates or more, you know, there had to be at least two couples. And my very first date ever was with this girl that I'd had a huge crush on, um, for a while. And I couldn't find anyone to double date with us because it was summer.

There was a lot of people out of town. Couldn't find anyone to double date with us. And so my parents, I kid you not made my 10 year old sister come along or 11, 10 or 11, something like that.

So yes, I was chaperoned on my first date by my, by my kid sister. And, um, it was utterly humiliating with it, with, with this girl I'd been crushing on for years. So yeah, that was, that was great.

That was wonderful. Um, worst first date was my first first date. Uh, how do you know the right words for any given situation? I don't think I do have the right words for any given situation.

Um, but for the things that I've touched on, the things I've recorded on, I do tend to have some good words. And what I do is really just kind of think about what I would want to hear if I were in that position. It was a little bit harder with the period comfort audio, because you know, it's just not something I experienced, but I have had, well, you know, to be honest, um, I've had when I've been sick, some very, very severe GI cramping.

And I can imagine, I mean, I'm not saying it's the same thing, but I can imagine what really bad cramps feel like. And so I was able to actually think about that. And I did while I was recording it, like, okay, what would help me feel better if way down low in my abdomen, I was experiencing severe cramping.

And, and, um, again, not, not trying to say that I know what the ladies go through. It was just a, a starting point for me to, uh, to empathize and, and make that audio. Um, do you have a favorite quote? Yeah.

I don't know how to say this guy's name, Walter Bagahot or Bagahot. Uh, B-A-G-E-H-O-T said a sun that shines in a rain that falls equally on the evil and on the good are essential to morality in a being free like man. Say it again, a sun that shines in a rain that falls equally on the evil and on the good are essential to morality in a being free like man.

And what that means is in order for morality to be a thing, we can't always reap the rewards or suffer the negative consequences of our actions right away. Otherwise there would be no reason to exhibit moral behavior because you would have a clear incentive or disincentive right there. So it wouldn't make, you know, certain actions right or wrong and it'd still be right or wrong, but morality is, is doing the right thing even when there's not an immediate payoff.

Um, my favorite song or band, you know, I really love the Japanese rock band Spitz. I've talked about this before. Um, they are one of my favorite bands and their song Shingetsu from their album Togemaru, um, is just amazing to me.

I mean, it's a very simple song. It's the same piano based, uh, sequence or riff or whatever over and over and over and over again. And, but it's just beautiful.

And the music video is stunning. Very simple. It just shows that it's black and white.

It shows a band playing this song and a woman dressed in white dancing, um, on a floor that's covered by a, by a small amount of water. And it's just breathtaking to me. What's your favorite thing to do on date night? I don't really care as much about what we do as who I'm doing it with.

Um, yeah, I like to spend time with, uh, with the person that I'm on the date with. I like for us to, um, be engaged, interacting with each other and I just enjoy their company. Are stretch marks a big deal and do women need, are they a big turnoff? Do women need to cover them up? I would say no and no.

They really don't bother me. Um, we all have our story. You know, I have a scar on my elbow from when I was a kid and um, it's got a story.

It's a permanent mark on my body that, that, um, and it's not unsightly or anything, but I do get questions about it from time to time. And, um, you know, it's part of my, part of my story. Stretch marks are part of the story.

They're part of your story going through life. And I don't think that they're.