Friend - 3am Conversation - Truth about Friends

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Now I completely agree with what you're saying, I do, and I actually like how you worded it because I've always felt that that's completely true and it's not talked about enough, okay? You're completely right in what you're saying, it is true. The quantity of friends doesn't matter, it's the quality of friends, and you're completely right in that area.

I'm actually upset that this isn't talked about more because I literally have, what, you and maybe one other friend? That's all I have, and sometimes it doesn't feel like it's enough, but then I just look at myself and I think, well, what if I did have more friends? They might not even be actual friends.

They might not. I know for a fact that you're my friend because you've been there for me. You listen to me, you talk to me, you ask me how I'm doing, and I also ask you how you're doing.

We worry and we care about each other. So I know for a fact that you're an actual friend, not just a fake friend. The word friend is just tossed around so much like it means nothing, like it honestly means nothing.

And I think that's harmful to our understanding and to how we treat other people because we think that we treat them like friends when in reality, we don't even know what a true friend is. Most people don't even know what a true friend is. We don't know, they don't know that when you call someone a friend, I mean, some people because like I said, a lot of people don't even know what a real friend is.

But when you give someone that title and you mean it, like you're my friend, you're my best friend, it means that I'm there for you. If you need money, I'm going to give you money. If I need money, I'm hoping that you can give me money.

If you need me to help you with something one day and I'm free, I'm going to help you. If you need to vent, if you need to talk, I'm here to listen. I'm here to consider what you're asking of me and I'm here to give you my honest opinion, my truthful opinion, not just say, oh, that sounds great and brush it off without actually considering what you're asking of me.

Imagining myself in your shoes because I care about you, not because I care about you, because I love you. You see, friends, they're more important in this world than family. They are.

We have a really fucked up understanding of what family is, but you don't get to choose your family. You're born into it. It's just chance.

It is. It is. It's just chance.

I mean, you could have a shitty father or a shitty mother, horrible siblings. You could have toxic parents and you didn't choose that, so that doesn't mean that you owe them anything because that's just chance. So what? So you decided to get pregnant one day? I didn't decide to be here.

You know what I mean? But friends, that's completely different. You're choosing a friend.

You're saying, you know what, I like you. I like you so much that I think I love you. And you're just a person that walks the planet and I don't have any other intentions besides the fact that I decide to love you because I do.

Because you love me too. And because we're two people who found each other and the friendship just blossomed. We nurtured it.

We made that choice. We're able to pick these people. We're able to pick them.

And that's a lot. You don't get to pick a lot of things in this life. To be honest, you don't get to pick most of the things that you're born with at all.

You don't get to. But a friend, that's something very important and very crucial that you can pick. That's why the term friend needs to become newly understood.

Newly understood. I want to joke about this but I think it's very important that we even teach this in school because it's fucked up. What we think sometimes is a true friend and then they turn out to not be that at all.

They turn out to just be someone who uses you. Someone who manipulates you. Someone who sees an opportunity in you and it's not a friendship.

It's a usage. You serve a purpose in their life. They can get something from you.

That's literally what all these fake friends are. They think that maybe, just maybe, they can be better with you in their lives than you not being in their lives. And that's sad.

Because it should be that way but from a very healthy standpoint of I help you because I love you and you help me because you love me. Because we want to be there for each other. Because we want to see each other grow.

Because we just want what's best for one another. That is a true friend and that's very rare. It's unconditional love.

It's unconditional love with only the other person's betterment on our mind. Not for selfish reasons. I might have gone on there too much but it really struck with me what you said.

It's true and I can see now that you agree as well. That's why we're friends. That's literally why we are friends and I'm so happy that you're in my life and I appreciate you.

I cherish you. I'm overwhelmed by having such a beautiful and kind person like you in my life and to be able to call you my friend. So you know what? I was saving this some other wine.

Oh, I can hear some thunder. I think it's going to rain. You should just stay, honestly, and if you do we can, what I was just saying was I got a really good wine on special and I really wanted to save it for a special occasion but what's a more special occasion than being with one of my best friends?

So you know what? Let's go open it and just have a wonderful time. Alright, I'll go get it.

I'll be right back.