Friend - 3am Conversation - Relationships

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Well I completely disagree on that I do I disagree and I don't care if you agree with me or if you don't but here's the thing I don't think that was his issue I do believe that the other guy was wrong and even though he apologized he did it backhandedly so I don't think that's right okay but again that's just my that's just what I think all right that's just what I think now what else can we talk about cuz I mean that was very full of so many things and it was just yeah um but what else well yeah no no I'm good I'm good I'm all right I don't need another drink I'm fine oh oh you know I'll think about it I'll think about it and if I want to then I'll have another drink but for now I'm good I'm good that does sound really good though it sounds really good um here's okay well ask again the other thing yeah the other thing go ahead uh-huh okay hmm well if I had to pick something okay if I had to say all right it's these three things you said top three things okay the top three things that I think I personally believe make a relationship work are communication respect and understanding okay I feel like we just dive all like we dive over these things okay and we just say all right it just has to be love and blah blah right and people say communication but when they say communication they misinterpret it in saying we just have to talk a lot like it's just talking it's just being truthful or whatever and that is true however if you want to dive deeper into it I do believe that furthermore besides just talking it's how you talk to one another it's am I attacking this person am I saying you're always doing this you're always doing that and because of that I can't function you're just putting the blame right that's a wrong way to go about it you got to do like you got to understand the circumstance and communicate it accordingly to that you got to have an open mind because you might be in the wrong you don't even realize it but people never want to be wrong you know so I think personally that's the way it should be you talk to one another you say look I'm I'm personally having an issue with this that you're doing and I don't feel good about it because of these reasons they just that's just how I feel right do you think you would come to an understanding we could come to an understanding where we could fix this together right that's that's the way you do it you know you have to see that the other person is also there and that they might not even understand you know it's just always attacking attacking attacking instead of communicating to work to to fix to fix all right because most of the time we just talk or we just say what we feel without really having an understanding of why we feel in the way we feel even ourselves so you might be saying oh well I feel this way I feel mad about it why do you feel mad about it right well because it reminds me of this and that makes me sad oh well look at that the majority of the time to anger is just the easiest feeling or emotion that presents itself if you go really easy to being angry but that's not a lot of the times the true feeling the true feeling could be something else could be envy could be sadness could be honestly even I guess in an extent it might even be happiness to be honest sounds weird but it could be so I really feel like all of this really presents that problem where people just think that it's communication and that's it right that's not it's not at all there's more to it there's a lot more to it it is a type of communication that you must have a respectful type of communication and the understanding is by far the most important what well well yeah I do mean okay okay I do mean understanding by understanding where they're coming from but when I say that I mean you try to understand it as much as possible okay and that obviously falls it's it's a to you know you got to work it out together because if the other person let's say that they come to you with a problem but they don't even tell you the extent of the problem they don't go and adapt they don't go this is how I feel this is why it's a problem is what I think you got to dive deep so that I since you're presenting the problem to me I can understand where you're coming from as long as obviously I am making an effort to understand right I mean I think that really speaks for itself but other people really don't realize that they don't understand that so sometimes I don't even understand that it really depends on who you are and what you do and if you're open to this obviously do you care about the other person because that also dies into everything else some people they truly don't care about the person they're with a lot of them you see them all the time though they're in a relationship right when you're in a relationship you should be obviously very loving and you should be I honestly feel like kind of crazy about the other person or close to it if not why are you with them why are you settling right because it's comfortable that's not good it might feel good it might feel safe but it's not good it's mediocrity it's mediocrity so that's the other thing that's the other side of all this there has to be love true love because if you have love like not lust that's what a lot of people are confusing love for these days is lost lust always wears out lust is not forever love is that's the difference and with lust you can't have love true love but with love you can bring lust back into it at least I feel like you can so it must be a decision on your part that it is love that you're in love with this other person and that love will carry you through everything else we talked about through the communication through being open-minded through understanding through respect because if you truly love this person your respect will be present and so will everything else it just follows it so I feel like those are actually the things you need the basics of it all and obviously goes into much deeper sense but like I said hey that's the basics of it I don't know if you agree at all but oh yeah yeah yeah exactly yeah right right yeah you know what all this talk about love and all this other stuff I will have a glass of that it sounds way too good I can't pass it up and thank you I love it I love it while you're pouring now let's let's talk about something else what do you want to talk about.