Friend - 3am Conversation - Alone

Transcript

Now, here's the thing. Rejection. It's gonna happen a lot, unfortunately.

And it's gonna become an occurrence that isn't gonna not hurt after the first few times. It will always continue to hurt, you know? Even when you become an adult, even when you're old, it'll always hurt.

There's nothing really like it. The rejection of new friends, the rejection from a job, the rejection from anybody. But I do have to say that rejection from a friend or from people that you perceive to be your friends, which in turn a friend could become a lover, but not all lovers can be your friend.

Those really hurt. I hope you understand what I mean because what I'm saying there is very important for you to understand. You want to make sure that the friends you pick, they're real.

And when I say real, it sounds kind of like a joke. How could they not be real? They exist.

I can see them, hear them, touch them. That's not what I mean. What I mean is just make sure they're not fake.

But most importantly, there's something better that can prepare you for all this rejection. Something that can make you whole without having anyone. And that is understanding that it's okay to be alone.

Because when you come into this world, you come alone. Yes, you have a mother that had you, but when we talk about it in a real way, in a logical and no emotion attached to it, that mother was Chance. And she had you.

It doesn't mean you owe them anything just for having birthed you into existence. You didn't choose that, did you? So really, when I say that you come into this world all alone, it's very, very much so true.

And that's a scary thought. That's even scarier because we're not taught to be okay with being alone. To be okay with being with yourself.

There's a lot to unpack there. We're not taught to understand ourselves, to respect ourselves. Not really.

They always just say love yourself, but that's not enough. How can you just jump to love something without understanding it? Without taking the time to really dissect who you are.

Talk about what do you want to be at 18 years of age. What do you want to do for the rest of your life? That's not easy.

No, we're not taught to take a moment and really understand and be okay with who we are. Alone. To be all right with that.

To focus on yourself. All we're taught is to seek someone else to complete us. And that's not always the case.

That's never the case, actually. Because sure, you could find someone that makes your life better, but they shouldn't be the only reason why your life is better. You should be striving to be okay with just being yourself.

And then adding something to make things better. But it should already be great. And you should be okay with that.

What I'm trying to prepare you for is the truth that you're alone and you should learn to understand that that's okay. That everyone will tell you, hey, who are you dating? Hey, who are you with? Hey, are you seeing anyone? Hey, this that.

Hey, what friends do you have? Hey, blah blah blah. But the truth is that you don't need all that.

First, first thing you should be okay with is yourself. And understanding that loneliness is okay. It's perfectly natural.

And even though it isn't taught and only a few of us really understand that and know that, I'm telling you and I'm preparing you to really understand this and embrace this. Because you deserve it. Everyone does.

So take this very seriously and realize that being alone, understanding yourself, working on yourself, is the first way of achieving true happiness and truly appreciating when you add someone else to your life. Know this, understand this, and embrace this.