Friend - 3am Conversation

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No, I know what you're saying and like it's I get that you know, I get that I'm not trying to like I Don't know. I'm not trying to differ from your opinion. I understand your opinion and I agree with it It's just that something about it bothers me that I don't know what it is Like I just can't something doesn't fit right with that.

But whatever forget forget it. Let's not let's not just talk about that You know, we can talk about something else Here let me hold on Fuck I haven't drank this much in a long ass time. What time is it right now? Really Shit, it's late Yeah, fuck it.

I haven't had a really long night out yet for a long time. So I actually prefer this Um, what was I? Oh, I finished this one.

Let me let me get another one. Hold on Yeah Fuck yeah, man. I Only thank you for inviting me.

I know it's been a while. We haven't really talked in a long time. So I Really really appreciate this God that's good.

Fuck. All right. So what were we gonna talk about now? Like, what do you want to talk about? Yeah, oh really how long have you guys been going out That's cool, wow, that's a pretty long time I mean I mean six months is a Really good amount of time.

I mean you're still in the like, you know the honeymoon phase, but It's a it's a really good time. How's it been going so far? Oh Well, that's that's good.

But what do you mean? Well, I mean, yeah, but like when you get to like six months I feel like that's when it I mean You can still be in the honeymoon phase. I would call it a honeymoon phase like Maybe Like when you the one-year mark, I really feel like you get to know someone, you know after one year That's when you've been together for a pretty long time and things start to get a little more, you know real in my opinion, but What like what do you mean by things are changing a bit Okay Well, that doesn't seem like oh Okay.

All right. I know what you mean. I go to me.

Okay. So what you mean is like They just don't seem as close as before Well, are you guys like you've been going out for six months are you guys like official that's how I'm stupid as fuck I mean, I mean at six months. Yeah, I would hope that you're I Guess I don't know what it's like.

I don't know what it's like I don't know what it's like, but I don't know what it's like I guess I don't know what it's like today But I would assume that you'd be somewhat official as like at least, you know, boyfriend girlfriend or whatever Yeah Uh-huh, right, right at a three-month mark. Okay, that's pretty soon I mean people become an item way before that you can you hear about people they just like go out one night They're already like boyfriend girlfriend like for real that shit happens But Okay, so then now it's been three months that you guys have been together and you just feel like things are Not progressing as they should be. Well This is me.

Okay. This is just me my personal opinion what I think Everybody's different obviously and you can't really expect everybody's experiences or like how they are as a human being To be you know, the exact same for everybody else There are like these like social like things that we accept as being the norm. You know what I mean? Like, oh an example After a few years you have to get married whatever right like that that type of deal But everybody's different and you can't expect them to be completely, you know, the same as everybody else That's what I mean.

Like these are just rules, you know rules that we've lived by But everybody's does basically whatever the fuck they want they try a lot of people try to go by these norms and They might just be Not at the same place as you are to be honest. And Also, this is very important is what I'm getting. Well, actually, you know what answer this question answer this question Have they like did they stop like all of a sudden or is it something that you've started to notice now?

Because it might be something that you just noticed and so now you're starting to pick up on other things But it started a long time ago Do you know what I mean? but since you're still in the honeymoon phase of like being together like a new couple then You didn't really pick up on it before you get what I mean? Like yeah So did you just start noticing it or was it something like if you think back now really like for a moment?

You really think back. Is it something that's been going on for a while? You know, let me take another Uh Yeah, yeah That's what I mean.

Like so you don't think that it's been going on for a while. You just think it just started all of a sudden Okay, and have you talked about this with them, you know? Have you know? You see I feel like that's a problem in it of itself because You you got to start off the relationship being honest with one another and if you feel like They're starting to drift away a bit It's something you got to talk to him about you.

Can't be just in your head about it all day I don't think it really does any good. I feel like You're basically just wasting time at this point and just feeling bad about it or not You know being concerned about what's going on without really? Having an Actual Explanation or at least trying to discuss it.

You know what I mean? so I Feel like you just have to talk to him and me if I had to draw a hypothesis of Why they might just be like it might just happen right now where they just started drift a bit You've started drift a bit apart, but you feel like it's them The only thing that really makes sense to me are two things one They started to notice that they actually don't really feel that way about you anymore You know because that you're still in the honeymoon phase, but the honeymoon phase for them might be ending Secondly I feel like it might actually be that they do feel very strongly towards you Like how you feel right, but they're scared But they're scared They're really scared to turn to get really serious So it's like one or the other in this case or and there are other explanations that could just be Mundane explanations like for example, they're busy as fuck Right, like they just might be really busy yet at their job Or they might be going through some type of stress that they're not really telling you about like with their family or something you know what I mean or like a friend just some issues and That's just what's going on but I Really don't feel like it could be anything else. It could be something else, but it might have to be just one of these three things and The great thing is I mean, it's actually I feel like it's a positive thing Out of these three things two of them are good The other one is bad just because well, I mean if they really feel like you're not compatible anymore They're just drifting away in you got to cut loose.

You know what I mean? And at that point it really feels like you've wasted Which you haven't really wasted time, but it does feel like you've wasted time, you know so I Feel like you just got to talk to him. You guys got to sit down have a really good talk What Yeah, well no, I really wouldn't feel no don't do it now Don't it's 3 in the morning.

Like it's basically 3 in the morning. Don't do it now probably sleeping That's not a good idea at all No, like okay how I would do it wait until You guys go out to eat. I would prefer you just order in that way You're more comfortable like in one of your apartments or something Order in some good food Don't drink before you talk just order in some good food Make sure you're both in like a good mood, you know to really open up about this and to really talk How are they as like in terms of talking?

How are they really open? You're really open. I Mean, you know, this is difficult.

I know that's why you haven't really talked to them We're really confronting them about it, which by the way confronting is not a good word. You just haven't discussed this with them, but I Really feel like if you really get some good food, you're just both in a good mood That's when you talk to them You know that that's when everybody's really willing to listen and just tell them how you feel tell them like hey has something been going On there's something that I did Do you feel good about us? Is there something you want to tell me? I just and tell them about your concerns.

Don't don't be just like pushing them for likes an explanation Do you know what? I mean, he's got to be like I've been feeling this way right now And I feel like it might just be my mind trick playing tricks on me, but I noticed that before Things were a lot smoother and we were just really connecting and right now Doesn't feel like there's been a wall that we've hit and I don't feel you that way anymore. The vibes are off.

So If you want to like if you'd like to try to explain to me what's going on I'm just really willing to hear you out and just try to understand what's going on because it doesn't feel the same And I'm pretty sure they're gonna be willing to like talk, you know, they're gonna talk for sure. So I Really hope it works out, you know, you seem so happy It they seem like such a good person, you know So, yeah Man, it's been a long time since we've talked about fucking relationships, right? I Know I know it's been so long since long For me.

Nah, I'm not I'm not seeing anybody right now I'm not I've just really been taking some time to Get to know what I want to do because I've been feeling really stuck lately But I don't want to get into that. It's just been a really big long few months of self-discovery and Understanding that there are a lot of things that I really need to change in my life. So it's been really good Honestly, you can tell I haven't been drinking as much as before which is a good thing, but I miss it Like I'm not gonna lie Plus these are fucking fantastic.

I hadn't tried these before so Yeah Well, you know what? I think I'm gonna head out. I have to work.

I have to go in early tomorrow. So I'm gonna head out I'm good. I only had the well actually, you know what just to be safe.

Do you mind if I crash on the couch? I got really appreciate it. Yeah, like just let me crash and I'll be out of here early as fuck You know, I have to go to work anyway, so yeah Alright, well, I'm gonna just go do you have it?

Do you have a towel I could use? Yeah. Yeah I just shower and I'll just go to sleep.

Yeah, no problem. Absolutely We have to do this again. We absolutely have to do this again.

Yeah All right. Let me go take that shower.