[F4TF] Trans body positivity Bubble Bath

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Because you deserve it we're gonna add this little bubble mix yeah I haven't had a bubble bath in a while so I'm glad you get to have a nice one yeah let me just put that in yeah I used to have these all the time yeah when I was like really little I would always have a bubble bath but it's been a long time I'll admit but what matters is we get to have one now yeah I know things have been tough lately I know that transphobia is kind of crazy I know that it can be an uncertainty of how the future will go for trans people and I know I can feel like people don't care about what happens but you deserve to relax too okay yeah I know things are scary but the best thing we can do is live our best life and I think a bubble bath is such a simple way to do that I guess there's a certain magic to it you know I think bubbles just in general have a almost childlike wonder to them you know the fascination of the little bubbles coming through the sky or maybe the sound of bubbles in the water I always quite liked it yeah I didn't know what ASMR was for quite some time but I think bubbles were something that gave me visual ASMR don't know why specifically but yeah it's just really soothing and we all deserve to relax unfortunately scrolling through social media and seeing bad posts doesn't actually make things better but I know that we care lots about what's going on and the people out there that it affects that we can't let that stop us from being happy you know I know it's not perfect but I want you to know that you get to live your best life too yeah and no matter what the world does we are gonna make sure we make the best of it the best of any moment we have together and the best way to do that is to relax now the bubbles are in full swing I don't have to do anything now I just have to sit yeah you okay yeah you just seem a bit tense dysphoria that's there's a vulnerability to a bubble bath I guess but there's there's nothing wrong with our bodies okay and when I say that I mean that we can change them however we like but no matter what we change and don't change well you're still important okay you're a self-worth or importance isn't determined by what beauty standards you adhere to you deserve to just be and as you change what you want to change there's a core part inside you hard inside you let's stay the same and that core part of you is a valid woman just like the rest of us you deserve to be you okay I know our bodies don't look how we planned that can be hard but you know I think there's something beautiful about blossoming into that butterfly you were always meant to be for a while I I thought my body would never get to change and it got to change one day it got to change one day it took such a long time to get there but I'm glad I made it you know even if it feels slow even if it feels excruciatingly slow it can change even if it's hard to access things or even if it's quite the wait you deserve all the affirming care that you want okay whether you want hormones surgery anything it's your choice okay you get to do you want it's about feeling good in your body not making society okay with your body there's nothing wrong with you you're not fixing yourself what you're doing is out of self-love transitions about being yourself being yourself after years of having to be someone else it's not really about changing per se it's about no longer having to pretend to be someone else it may seem like a change of someone else but really it is being who was already there and you deserve to live as a girl if you feel good living as a girl then that's all the evidence you need really gatekeeping can be awful there can be unspoken rules about what we can and can't do to be valid but you're allowed to be you you're allowed to be a girl you have permission even if it doesn't feel like it i know there's scary law changes there's scary figureheads that will try to debate our existence every 10 seconds as if that's a personality trait because i guess they don't have much going on it can feel obsessive how much some people hate us just for existing without meeting us but you know that doesn't change that there are so many people that love you that care about you okay there's an entire community of trans people thousands upon thousands upon thousands of people probably the millions at this point we're always here and i think that all of them want all of us to have a nice bubble bath you deserve to feel good you're worthy of love you're allowed to feel joy but you're also allowed to be sad if things aren't going out of your heart if things feel hard right now just know that you can be trans but even while living as a girl if other things are making you sad then you're still allowed to live as a girl you don't have to be a picture perfect happy person just to be allowed to be yourself have you ever met a cis girl where everything was perfect for them probably not and even if we thought so there'd be stuff we wouldn't see no human being is perfect we have happy days we have sad days but with all my heart i have to say that i'm glad i get to be me i'm glad the more and more you are blossoming into your true self a self that you decided for you i can't decide who you're gonna be neither can all the transphobes i think they know better the only one that picked anything is you i mean we don't see your thoughts and i know some thoughts can be scary but you're still wonderful okay even if you doubt that sometimes even if you have those moments where you wonder if you're doing things right you're doing your best and i think that's enough i think that's beautiful i think you are one of the most beautiful girls in the world actually i know that sentence is going to be replied with but i blank look there every body is different there are people with narrow shoulders or broad shoulders there's people with wide hips there's people with a lot of hair there are people with narrow shoulders or broad shoulders there's people with wide hips there's people with slender hips every body is different but that doesn't devalue anything you're allowed to be you and you're allowed to dislike some parts of your body too we we have our dysphoria and there are parts that we want to change there are some things we can't but there's some things we can i get sad about my height sometimes because that's largely out of my control but despite that everything else got to change everything else got to change um from my body shape my your social ability to wear what i wanted and the grueling process of changing my voice there's a layer of vulnerability to all of it i'm glad i did all that i'm glad i took that leap and uh tried to be me even when people told me i couldn't even if people thought there was no way else possible they were wrong ten said i was right it worked out in the end and i think it's pretty cool to get to be yourself finally yeah it's no matter what stage you feel you're at i think already your progress is pretty amazing there's a lot to it a lot to it that people can't see but it's there and what you go for is real your feelings are real you're allowed to be happy upset angry whatever if you feel something you feel it okay you don't have to match stereotypes you don't have to be a certain body shape the only reason body types are gatekept so much is because people are used to doing it to cis people too it just carries over there could be a degree of needing to be an idealized feminine person to be allowed to be a to be allowed to be a girl but those are standards not even cis women reach it's unfair to compare ourselves to others who have a different circumstance a circumstance that they can't even reach idealized feminine beauty standards often even cis women have to get surgeries and stuff to even get close it's a rather toxic concept but it can be hard to ignore it because it's so ingrained in everything but if we think about it differently about how everybody is unique and beautiful and how you don't have to prove your gender to anyone you simply are and i know that can't fix everything but i hope it makes it a bit easier everyone deserves to be treated with respect kindness sincerity i said that weird but you know what i mean you deserve to be here i'm so glad that you are here it's okay if you want to hide under the bubbles you don't have to show what you don't want to show you know this is just a calm bubble environment but i want you to know your body's still important your body's beautiful parts of it will change but the parts that don't are up to you you only have to do what you want to do okay okay the bubbles are dancing around quite a lot huh yeah i know that a lot's changed but we'll always have this cute little bubbles really simple things like the rain coming or the trees swaying in the wind there's some things that don't change that much even if everything around us changes you're still you you're still you as a wise woman once said the things that change me will no longer change me yeah things will change but it doesn't change that core part of you and that core part of you is that brave girl that advocated for herself to be who she is it's that wonderful spirit within you in a way that overcame everything so far you have a 100% survival rate and for that i i think you should be proud of that if that's not deserving of a bubble bath i don't know what is you've gone for a lot even if random rich people will say to you that you don't.