[F4A] Your Girlfriend Eases Your Anxiety

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Hey sweetheart. Yeah, yeah, I'm on my way over. I'll see you in a bit.

Knock knock, guess who's here? Yeah, yeah, I know I'm corny. So, I'll take it you forgot.

Hmm, okay, let me refresh your memory. You and me together tonight on a date. Yep, yep, that was the night.

Oh, whoa, whoa, calm down, calm down. It's fine, it's fine. I'm not mad at you, promise.

Yeah, it's okay. It's totally fine with me. But hey, if you don't mind me asking, is everything okay? No, no, not with the whole date thing.

I forget things all the time. You know me. I guess what I want to ask is, uh, I don't really know how to say it other than just saying it.

So, I'll do that if it's okay with you. Yeah, it's okay? Okay, good.

Well, I've noticed you've seemed really down lately. And look, I know that you're not the most EPKA person, but I don't know. It seems kind of different lately.

Oh, okay. So, there is something? Do you maybe want to talk about it? Of course, if you'd rather we leave it be, that's totally okay.

But if you want to talk, I'm right here. I'll always be right here for you. Okay.

Can I? Sorry, can I sit with you? Yeah? Okay, then.

Please, continue. I see. So, you've just been feeling anxious lately? I'm sorry.

Yeah, I'm sorry that I didn't notice, that I didn't pay enough attention to it. Yeah, yeah, I know. It's not my fault.

Still, I wish I had known, or that I'd asked earlier. I just. ..

It sucks that you were dealing with all of that. That you've been dealing with all of this alone. Did you maybe feel like you couldn't talk to me about it? And I don't mean to say that you have to tell me everything, because you certainly don't.

I don't want you to ever feel like you need to tell me everything. But at the same time, I don't want you to feel like you can't tell me things. I'm not going to be worried about it, you know? If there's ever anything that you want to tell me, I want you to feel free to do that.

I want you to feel safe coming to me with whatever it may be. Mm-hmm, okay. So, in general, just a lot going on lately? Like overwhelming innocence? No, yeah, I get it.

I know how busy you've been lately, and I've been busy too, and that probably hasn't been the easiest, you know? Us not being able to be together as much. I'm sorry that you're going through that, really.

I'm really sorry you felt like you couldn't come to me. Hey, hey, look at me. Look at me.

You're never going to be a burden on me. Never. I want you to talk to me.

I want you to feel like you can talk to me. You mean so, so much to me, and I want you to be open and honest with me. You know, I'm never going to pass judgment or treat you differently or anything like that.

Have you been thinking that that I would think you're too much? No, no, I'm not upset. I just wish that I'd known, or that I'd asked these questions earlier.

It's okay. It's okay. I'm not upset about the date, truly.

We don't have to go out. Just being with you is enough for me. That's what I care about.

We have our fun going out, and that's great and everything, but it's not what's important to me. Look, if you wanted to spend all of our time inside in your room, that would be totally okay with me. Are you feeling anxious now? Yeah, I understand.

I get it. I've been there before, and I know that sometimes it's hard to open up. We're so used to being these very strong people with impenetrable walls, but sometimes enough stones get thrown and our walls start to crumble, and that's okay.

We don't need to be a perfect fortress. We can have our cracks and still be beautiful, too. I know that I tell you how strong you are so often, and you are so unbelievably strong.

I really admire you for it, but if you ever need a second or a minute or however long to just not be strong, to have a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold or just someone here, I can be that for you. I want to be that for you. I just want you to know that there's nothing you could do or say that would make me feel like you're too much.

There's nothing, and I get it. That's your anxiety talking, getting in your head, and making you think that everyone's going to be judgmental or not care. And hey, I can't speak for everyone.

Fortunately, I haven't mastered that sacred art yet, but just know that for me, I'm always going to be right here. Come here. Yes, come here.

Hug time. I love you so much, so, so, so much. I hate that you're going through this right now.

I know how it can feel, that loneliness, even when you're surrounded by people who care so much about you. Sometimes you feel like you're alone in all of this, but you're not, not when I'm by your side. And you know, you're doing such a good job with everything.

You have a lot on your plate right now, but you're doing it all so amazingly that sometimes you leave me kind of awestruck. And look, you're always there for everybody else, and it's okay to have someone be there for you too. Yeah, yeah.

I'm really proud of you. You're doing so well, and I really appreciate you being vulnerable with me. I know how hard it is to open ourselves up to others, not knowing how they react, but thank you for trusting me.

Yeah, it's okay if you need to cry. It's normal. It's human.

The moment that we stop being human, we, you know, turn into these emotionless robots, and the person that I fell for is not a robot. They're amazing, and they're awesome, and they're human, and they're allowed to have feelings and emotions, and that's what I love about them. Do you want to try something? Breathing exercises, maybe? Yeah? Okay, let's breathe in and out.

Okay, you ready? In, hold, and out. Okay, let's do another.

In, hold, and out. Okay, let's do one more. Third time's a charm.

In, and out. Okay, are you feeling better? Yeah? Good, good.

Yeah, I do breathing exercises a lot. I get pretty anxious sometimes. Yeah, I don't really talk about it that much, just because I've learned to deal with it, you know? I have my methods, and sometimes I, you know, I kind of just need that instant moment to be calm, where when I'm doing work, I get really, you know, just overstimulated, and I kind of just need to take a second and just breathe, and, you know, not be so stressed.

So, I breathe, and I do in and out, and it helps a lot. So, if you aren't doing that, you should do it more, because it's very, very helpful. You want to know something? Yeah, it's a secret.

I have to whisper it to you. Yeah, you're really attractive. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

I was just like, wow, really shocked when I looked at you, Justin. Yeah, yeah, I'm just so.