Boyfriend - Resolution

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Look I'm exhausted okay I am I can't I can't keep going on with this it's been it's been what an hour it's been way too long already okay we have to resolve this somehow I just I can't let me just preface this with what I'm about to say because it's gonna it's gonna be done we can't keep going on with this I just want to resolve this already I take complete responsibility for what I said yes I said that wait wait wait wait please please let me finish this okay can I do that great I take full responsibility for what I said and my love I apologize to you I I do what I said was completely selfish I was not considerate of your feelings when I said that and I've realized that now and I am I am grateful to you for pointing it out I really am I've come to understand how it hurt you how it was just wrong for me to even say it that that's that's clear I apologize I will do better I promise just wait and see because actions mean everything words are nothing I'm telling you right now it won't happen again and anything close to it will not happen okay however however and remember this is a completely different thing than what we're talking about but it reminded me of something that's been bothering me for a while and if we're trying to just better ourselves in this relationship I'm doing something that I'll make sure not to do again for your sake and for my sake because I realized that it was wrong of course but there is something that you do or you don't do that does bother me and it has affected me and I just want you to be aware of it and I would appreciate it if you also did the same in actually well doing it instead of it not existing I'm trusting you here because it's been bothering me it's been at the back of my mind for a while and I want to make sure that if I tell you this you will take it seriously it has nothing to do with what I said like with that situation that was a completely separate thing all right okay I feel that sometimes you don't care about my feelings at all you do care about me being happy or sad that's that's not what I mean what I mean is you say things sometimes that aren't you don't think of my emotions when you say or make these actually you make these decisions you only consider the relationship but not really my specific you know emotions or what I might think what I might feel about those decisions you only do it for for us but not for me if that makes sense does that make sense yeah well okay I'll give you a perfect example when we went to go see your family the other yeah when we go went the other day to go see them you knew that I didn't want to see your family that day I had been going through a lot at work I wanted to get home and just stay home I did not want to go out but you thought that it was more important to show face and that it might be a bigger issue because they might think that we were being disrespectful and not showing up and I explicitly told you that I did not feel well that I wanted to stay home and you didn't care you basically told me to in a way you didn't say this those specific words but you basically said man up you know I know you didn't say those same words but it felt like that that's what it felt like and I have days where I don't feel good where I just want to stay home I don't want to go anywhere I just want to be with you I don't want to deal with them but I still went and you were completely fine and happy about me going but it still made me feel pretty bad it didn't feel great at all it should be enough that I tell you that I feel tired that I feel I shouldn't have to say all of this underlying stuff because whenever you tell me something I always put you in front of in front of whatever whatever anybody else might think or whatever we might need to do because of whatever I put you first it's like no well you don't feel well let's just do whatever or if you don't want to do it you know that's all that matters to me is your opinion or how you feel I just want that more as well for me because I know that I show an exterior which just like I say well I maybe don't want to do that or whatever but sometimes I really you know I really mean it when I say it I shouldn't have to plead or explain in great lengths to convince you right that's all that's all I'm asking for so I completely agree with I'm sorry for what I said I really really am I realize how stupid and ignorant and selfish it was and it will never happen again never it was inexcusable no matter what it won't happen again baby okay I really appreciate that thank you for saying that thank you for saying that about me because I feel heard and I know that you will you'll you'll do better as well come here come here I love you I love you and I'm glad that we found a way to just move past this but not just bury it but we actually talked it out you know that means the world the communication and respect we have for each other the love we have for each other that's the important thing and I'm so glad to have you in my life well um now that we're past that what do you want to do because I don't want to keep talking about that I think we should either get a drink or get some ice cream I actually really want ice cream right now you want ice cream let's go get ice cream any wherever you want I mean I could go for either frozen yogurt or ice cream either one I don't care but I know you like yep I already knew you were gonna say that I already knew well then just are you gonna change I have to change too let's just go change and then we can go get mm-hmm mm-hmm yes all right come here baby come here god I love you all right let's go.