Boyfriend - Good parents?

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Let me get this straight okay and just bear with me for a moment because I want to make certain that what you're trying to explain I understand okay that is very important that nothing is misunderstood there's no loss of communication of proper communication so what you're telling me is you think that your parents the way they raised you the fact that they were there for you they paid for your things and they gave you you know the bare necessities and all those things you think that is enough to make them good parents mm-hmm no go ahead go ahead I just want to make sure yeah well no I definitely I get that point like for example if you have a parent that's always working right they're always working and they provide right but they're not there for you truly in the times when you need them so for school things for just you know spending time with you right I don't think it's neglect I think that would be kind of arrogant in terms of privilege because you know kids who have parents that have jobs that make a lot of money they they can decide to not work as much right or they might just have jobs that are more you know CEO level you know what I mean like true privilege they don't really they make a lot of money and then the parents are home so if they decide to not be emotionally available then they're choosing to be neglectful you know what I mean like that's it's when you have a choice at the same time you could make the same argument right it just becomes so complex this conversation it just doesn't have that's what I've been trying to tell you before how I view things I don't think that every human and you know every single person is so is a galaxy like it's every single person is so different than every other person every single person experiences life and has very different experiences than their own sibling for example someone that's lived in the same house as them they're not even built the same like as a person as a soul whatever you're not there's you're never gonna be the same or be able to be comparable to another person you thought you're following right okay so I just want to make sure that we consider that because it's just so hard to you have to judge every specific and obviously but what I mean by judge is just give your opinion on right you have to do that for every single every single instance or every single family or person that you encounter with the limited very limited information that you get because what you've told me has just been a few paragraphs which is obviously nowhere near the entirety of what you know your parents were actually like it's I can just give you you know my honest opinion on what I think but I don't want you to ever think that it's you know take it with a grain of salt because I was obviously not there right exactly yes so let me ask you some questions okay all right whenever you've needed to talk to someone about something like you know most kids they're not really forthcoming a lot of kids aren't forthcoming to their parents because they think they're gonna get in trouble or they just don't share that seems to be a consensus that the majority of children you know we're like that I think however however do you think you'd be able to share something that's really important with your parents well let's say you had like a bad test or something or you have a question about I don't know something about a friend or something like that that's important you know doesn't have to do with you let's say that a friend is having trouble at home and you just want to talk to your parents about it would they be receptive enough to actually give you the time of day to actually listen to you speak to listen to you explain your side and to not automatically judge and take a stance but more really wanting to understand where you're coming from with that situation do you think that would happen yeah okay automatically if your parents are willing to listen to you without quickly jumping into a judgmental stance just you know what I mean by that I think then they're already doing way better than most parents you know most parents they come from they try to work from a place of concern they do but they let it become overpowered with just automatically I have to fix this and I have to give my judgment you see not even not even trying to truly understand everything so that's what I think if you truly think that your parents are willing to listen to you you know through hard times or through questions that you might ask about life or about relationships or about you know just things if they're willing to truly listen to you and automatically not just take a stance that's huge and even then if they try to take a stance they're just trying to look out for what's best for you as long as they do that that's the point there that's what I meant as long as they're trying to look out for what's best for you not them not what they think but for you then yeah I think they're remarkable parents at that point or not even just remarkable they're just good parents which is bare minimum because you've seen how a lot of parents treat their children right it's not all of us have really good relationship with our parents do we that's another boat that I don't want to get on right now but yeah no that kind of gives you an idea of what I mean and again that doesn't mean that I'm right but you wanted my opinion so that's what I think I mean I've met your parents and truly they've from my point of view I'm not their kid but they seem like good parents and I hate to use the argument oh they could be so much worse but truthfully I think that when you're in a spectrum on the spectrum of like being more towards the good you really should use that phrase because it really can be a lot worse you know and just be grateful for what you have that's that's where that works you see but then if you're more on the spectrum of them being bad parents then I don't think there's an excuse to use oh it could be so much worse because you're already on the worst side right so there's more inclination for it to be well it could be a lot better it's true so yeah either way we're gonna see them this weekend okay and they're gonna be fine with your decision okay I promise you they're gonna be okay with it well you're not happy you're not happy doing that and if you're not happy doing that it's okay for you to drop it and pursue what you really want to do and again if they're not okay with it it's not their choice all right sweetheart I'm here for you and we're gonna make sure that it's it's fine and we're gonna get you on the right path and we're gonna get through it and you're gonna be great all right all right sweetheart come here you'll always have my support always all right baby yeah okay let's uh let's decide so where'd you want to go eat with them what that's the first thing we have to pick what place did you have in mind yeah we'll just list them off and we'll pick mm-hmm go ahead.