👏 😎 Bestie Says NO 😎 👏 (F4A) (Tomboy Bestie Gives You a Pep Talk) (No More Feeling Sorry for Ourselves) (Wholesome)

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I Need to say something to you and I need you to understand that I'm saying it with peace and love, okay You are very annoying You are Undisputed non-negotiable facts Because you are so ready to not believe in yourself and it's really annoying You Were these a fetus bullshit, but no one's ever gonna fall in love with me. What have I got to offer someone love? That is what you have to offer.

Okay, love and consistency and time and caring and just being you But now you're so fucking obsessed with being like, oh, well, I'm not this high. I don't weigh this much I don't make this much who gives a shit Who gives a shit and the people that do give a shit? Do you want to be with them? Do you want them in your life in your space in your intimate zone judging you bringing you down criticizing you?

I Don't think so So, why do you insist on holding yourself to the standard that you never even believed in in the first place Because I can't stand to see how down you get about it Because it's so annoying cuz you get so down about it and you're like, oh it's never gonna happen It's like no bitch. You're confirming your own biases. I know I've been there You can't give up Oh, no, you can't give up because then I have to give up If there's no chance of you finding true love what the hell am I gonna do?

Seriously No, but I'm allowed to be down about myself cuz that's factual Oh All right, fine fine I have tits and I'm not negative all the time so I Don't know You can't be judging me on the self-deprecation you are way way worse Mostly I'm just ambivalent to myself you a feckin mean Mean Mean and snidey and judgmental to yourself You do realize you're on your team right that has cropped up in your mind Babushka sweet one, baby, baby, baby, baby girl slash boy slash silly goose You're not doing yourself any favors And I know you know that because you're self-aware enough But you really need to recognize that being shitty to yourself is not good Because your brain takes in the things that you say to it and if you constantly tell it it's a piece of shit It's gonna think hmm. I shall confirm that bias again and again and again And That's what you're doing here sitting in my flat feeling sorry for yourself Complaining that no one's ever gonna fall in love with you when you never give anyone the second chance And I recognize that I also participate in this shitty self-destructive behavior But since it's happening to you also, it's a lot easier to see and so I can say as someone who loves you Maybe you should cut that shit out Because we're already not young and someday we're gonna die And I don't know about you but fuck I'd like to be in love with someone Wouldn't you Yes, you would that's why you complain about it all the time I Am NOT having a go at you I just I Don't think either of us are doing ourselves or each other any good by sitting here and going. Oh the end is nigh.

I Think we've created a smelly sweaty echo chamber Maybe we should stop Because you have good qualities goddamn it and so do I somewhere I think Maybe deep deep inside. I don't know See see see see you can say that I have them and I can see that you have them So we need to work on seeing our own Because one it'll be good for our mental health and two it really creeps people out when you have no sense of self-esteem and it should We should not be waiting for this relationship to change us and make us better people and suddenly fixers Okay, that's not someone else's responsibility And yes people can be very healing and they can make us feel loved and seen and heard but they can't Fundamentally change the way we see ourselves We have to do that and it's exhausting it's like god really more work outside of actual work outside of hobbies Outside of moving my body and eating the vegetables more But so far this self-pitying schtick really hasn't been working Because here we both are complaining and saying oh, what was me And it's like well Well, it's gonna be me when you stay inside and don't talk to people and confirm your own biases online by going. Look look scary Ah judgmental.

Ah, stay inside. I I Don't know I sound like I know all preachy asshole right now, but I'm not trying to I'm just saying what we're doing now Clearly isn't working So mayhaps mayhaps somehow we might need to challenge our current pattern I Agree fuck me, but I Think behind the fuck you there's a little bit of acknowledgement that hey, she might be talking some sense Mm-hmm Hmm Oh, I have no idea I'm just slightly below average intelligence, which means I am aware that something is wrong But I have no idea how to fix it Which is fun Slash not fun slash scary slash. Oh, I just know this isn't working Laying next to each other and going.

Oh, that's never gonna happen. I Don't get sick of your own fucking brain Yes, yes just goes on and on and on and so you watch the movie and you play the music and you And then still your brain is there and you know what we've done that We've programmed our brain to go. Look see you are shit.

Look, you're not competing well enough Look, everybody's ahead of you. And so your brain goes, ah, ah, ah, you're behind you're behind It's like behind wall What? I'm a mammal I'm alive because my dad creamed in my mom.

That is why I'm alive and my purpose is to live Fake pointless, but still I'm here And I recognize this is not inspiring but why does everything have to be inspiring why can't it just be life I Don't even know what I'm saying anymore apart from I'm done with the whole war with me that's never gonna happen stick because it's just I Don't know that's true You don't know that's true. We're just full of shit both of us Still like you though a lot Partly because I've known you so long and also partly because she just good Well, you don't harass people you don't attack people you do small acts of kindness where you can It's just good Good energy good egginess not I I Don't know and this is another reason that I just I don't know how to speak to people or say anything But those are skills they can be improved with practice and determination someday somehow I might have a Conversation that makes sense and has an end point.