Bestfriend - Thief of joy

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How are you doing? It's been so long, right? How've you been? Hmm, well for me, nothing much really, just trying to make sure everything's on track and keep going with what I'm doing, you know, just little by little.

I try to make sure that I do as much as I can, but not overdo it, because it's just gonna take a long time for me to get this project up and running, but it doesn't matter, you know, it's just so glad to see you. It's been so long, so I'm glad we were able to do this, you know, just hang out for a while, take a break from everything, right? Even though it might sound a little bit, you know, bad.

It sucks that we haven't seen each other in so long, you know. I feel bad about it, but I know we're both busy with our own things, and things happen, so we have the time now, so that's the only important thing, but yeah, yeah, been good, been good, just that stuff. How about you? What's going on with you? I haven't, you know, I, yeah.

Oh, really? Well, that's fantastic, that's amazing, that's great. Oh, what do you mean? Oh, wait, what was that? I think, the thing you just did, I can tell, like, you're not saying what you're thinking.

What you're saying doesn't line up with your face at all, okay? I mean, I haven't seen you in a while, but I fucking know you, okay? We're like, come on, come on, I know you.

What's going on? No, just whatever you feel, it doesn't matter. I'm not here to judge, I'm here to listen, and if you want me to maybe share my thoughts with you, I can, but you have to share first, you know?

We can't, we can't talk about it if we don't know what it is, right? So, whatever it is that you're feeling, just go ahead, let it out. Yeah.

Oh, do you need, do you want a drink or something? No? Okay.

No, no, go ahead, go ahead, just want to make sure. Of course, of course. Go ahead.

Right. Yeah, yeah. I get that, I get that.

Right, okay. I see what you're saying, I see what, okay, hold on, hold on. I see what you're saying.

Were you, were you going to say something else? No? Okay, okay, okay.

All right, so, I'm not gonna do the thing where, like, people are always just go like, oh, you're gonna be all right, it's okay, whatever, it's fucking bullshit, right? I'm only gonna tell you what my experience has been, because how you feel right now is how I was feeling, literally, when was it? It was exactly two years ago, right after we went on that trip.

Yeah, right after that, that was right in the beginning of what, yep, when I got this job, mm-hmm, and then, you know, at the beginning, I wasn't getting any projects, you know, I wasn't, I wasn't doing, at that point, which, by the way, you know, at our age, we think that we are way behind where we're, but we're still young, you know, we're still young, it's, it's not the end of the world. So, okay, I'm getting off track, I'm getting off track. Point is that life has a habit of reminding you about time, right? It doesn't reflect how long time actually is and how everybody's journey is completely different.

So, let me put it this way, you'll see two people, right, two people who seem to be the same age, who maybe even see, seem to have the same lives, right? But it's all a complete illusion of you thinking their lives are anywhere near remotely the same life, alright? I'm gonna explain it again because I know that was like, I might be losing myself as well, but just let me, let me try to make you understand this because this is how I, they always say comparison is a thief of joy, right?

And they're completely right. So, here's the deal, I'll put it in two, in two separate things so you can really understand because I get your frustration, you think you're supposed to be a lot farther ahead than you are. That's what you were telling me, right? That's the gist of it.

You feel like you're stuck, like you're not really moving forward. You are moving forward, okay? As long as it's little by little, it doesn't matter how little it is, as long as you were better, you know, you don't even have to say, people say, oh, try to do a little better today than you did the day before than yesterday.

That's a load of crap, you know, you're not gonna be working every single day, but as long as you're moving forward every few days, every week or so, every month, right? As long as you're not going a lot of time without there being some sort of progress and whatever it is that you want and whatever it is that you want in life, your goals, you're doing great. It's already pretty hard fucking living out here.

Like, just living is, is it, it takes up all your fucking energy. So, producing something and doing something even more than that, it takes a lot. It takes a lot.

That's why it's not easy. If it was easy, everybody would be like, you know, doing shit out of nowhere and getting degrees and getting jobs and getting, making a lot of money. It's, you know, doing their, fulfilling their passions, their hobbies.

It's not easy. It takes time and it's, you know, little by little, but it makes it so worth it. So, here are the two things I'm gonna say.

One, you can compare yourself to someone that you think is the same as you. They're not. They're not the same as you.

That you might seem the same on paper, but you're not. You're two completely different individuals having an experience, right? And the way you're built, the way, what I mean by the way you're built, the way your mind works is fitted to the experiences that you had throughout your life.

Those were the things that sculpted you into being you. And the other person had, think about it, had, how many experiences do you think they had that were completely different to your own? So many, so many, right? So, just with that, you can't compare yourself to anyone else, okay? Even if you think you might be remotely close, I can tell you that you're, you're completely different individuals.

Nobody comes even close to being the same as another person on this planet. No one. We're all vastly different to each other.

And that's the thing that people forget. So you can't do that, right? The second thing I was gonna say is, and just, just give me a second, I gotta take a little bit of water because I'm, I'm sorry if I'm talking your ear off, is that okay?

I mean, I'm sorry, I don't want to, I don't want to overdo it with telling you all this, but I think you'd really need to hear it. And I care about you, all right? I love you.

You know, we're friends and we've been friends for a very long time, so I want to make sure that if nobody else has told you this, that I'm able to tell you because you were able, you were willing enough to trust me with it, right? You were. And I want you to be all right.

I want you to put your mind at ease and make sure that you've been heard and that I actually do think I'm qualified to tell you this because I went through it myself, right? So the second thing I was gonna say was, and this is very, very important, it actually connects back to what we were talking about with time, right? It takes time to make things, to realize who you are, to navigate or even start to understand how to barely navigate through the world and through your life, right?

A lot of us right now, I mean everybody really, is just thrown into a world where you're told you have to do things a very specific way, you have to have it all figured out, and you have to learn super quick, right? Which is completely inconsiderate, not real at all. It's just an illusion of how you should be, how everybody tells you that you, where you should be, how you should think, how you, you know, all these things.

The reality is nobody teaches you how to, how all this works and the things that I've said. You'll, you're gonna think about this conversation when you're feeling a lot better in the future and you'll see that I'm right. So from now on, just what I mean with all of this, right? Is to take it slow.

You're doing great. Don't compare yourself to anybody. Compare, actually the only person you should be comparing yourself to is the yesterday that you were, right?

Are you better off than that person you were a week ago, two months ago? Even if you're not, but you're doing things and you're trying to be better and you're trying to get ahead and work through things, whether it's mental things, trauma, your financials, your art, your hobbies, whatever it is, as long as you're using your time to be happy and to truly live, you'll be okay. You'll be fine.

Because everybody wants to sell you on how your life should be, but you're the only one that can decide what your life is. You get to choose that. So as long as you do that, you're gonna be fine.

All right? How do you feel? I know it's a lot of information.

I talk way too fast when I get passionate about something. Yeah, you remember that. Absolutely.

Oh, God. Come over, come over here. Let me hug you.

Oh, because I want you to be alright, you know, and I love you and I'm so glad you're here. I just can't. Yeah, I'm glad that we did this, you know, but hey, enough about that.

Do you want to go get something to eat? What do you want to do next? What do you want to talk about? Like, let's talk, forget that, forget that.

Let's just relax, talk about random shit, and that was heavy a little bit, but I'm glad we had it, you know? So yeah. All right, what do you want to do?