Bestfriend - 3am conversation - Tough love

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Nah, because I'm sick of it. And I'm literally gonna make you understand where you're failing. Yeah, because you are failing.

You think that you're perfect, you're always crying and complaining and whining about life. When in reality, you have as much to do with it as life has to do with it. I don't know, maybe it's the drinks, maybe it is whatever it is.

I need to tell you this, okay? And I'm gonna give you some tough love right now because I love you. But someone has to tell you, and it ain't gonna be anybody else, it's gonna be your best friend, me.

Alright, here it goes. To start off, you whine way too much. It isn't gonna accomplish anything.

It's okay if you want to vent every once in a while, but if you're just whining 24-7, you're wasting time from actually finding a solution. Also, whining is just saying words into the wind, or, in our case, to my face. And I'm completely fine hearing you out and being here for you, but it's not doing you any favors.

Instead of whining, you should be sitting down and trying to find a solution to your problems. I know it sounds tough, but again, I say, just be modest with the amount of whining you do. It doesn't have to be every single day.

Does that make sense? Okay, good. The next one you're not gonna like, and unfortunately, it's just way too true not to say it.

You have a horrible tendency to never see the faults that you have. Right now is probably the first time that you've actually acknowledged that you might be wrong, but that doesn't always happen. It never happens, actually, and that's one of your biggest faults, because how can you expect it change?

How can you expect to become better if you're not willing to see that you have faults, that you have very big faults? Denial is not something that you want to keep around. You're gonna have to open your eyes and acknowledge that you're a big problem as to why you are the way you are, and especially why you are in this spot and the circumstances that surround you, because obviously, it doesn't have to do with you 100%, but it has to do with you quite a bit.

You see, you can only really blame your circumstances so much until you realize that, well, if the circumstances aren't changing, maybe I have to. Did you hear that? Do you want me to repeat it for you? I will, just in case.

It might not be the circumstances that need to be changed. It's you. When you changing, you might be affecting the circumstances around you, but since you never change, you will never know this.

You will never truly know this. I'm sorry that I had to say it like that, but I had to. I love you.

I care about you. A lot of other people, they would never say this to you, and I hope that you see that because I'm saying these things to you, because I might seem cold or heartless right now, you can see through all of this bullshit and see that all I want is for you to be okay more than anything. I want you to be alright.

I want you to be better, actually. I don't just want you to be alright, scathing by. I want you to achieve the things that you want.

But sometimes, all it takes is a little introspection and being truthful with yourself. And since you're not willing to do that on your own, then I'm willing to lend a hand and just tell it to you how it is, or at least how I view it. You know how I think.

You know the way that I view the world, the way that I view people. I'm very practical, I'm very reasonable, and I'm saying that you're completely right in feeling upset and mad and whining about your circumstances. But after you do that, you need to also look at yourself and see how you can change to make it better.

Well, that's all I actually had to say. All the other things are actually very stupid. They're just things that annoy me from you.

But they don't annoy me too much. Alright, fine, I'll just say one thing to ease the tension of this whole conversation. But you really have to stop chewing your nails.

Like, seriously. It's enough. You eat them down to the bone.

Well, it seems like you do. I'm afraid you're going to be without fingers one day. No, I'm sorry.

I just want you to be alright, okay? Here, I'm going to go get another round. I just want you to relax and really consider the things that I've told you.

Even though we've been drinking for a little while, I'm pretty sure this will stay with you because from what I can tell, you're still not in your drunk phase. You're okay. We're both okay.

I'll be right back. You want that same drink? Alright.

And hey, remember, I love you. You will always be my best friend. And I'm always here for you.

Come here. Love you. Alright, I'll be right back.