21) How To Be A Good Submissive

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Hi Slave, Before we get started, I want to take a moment to tell you how proud I am of you for wanting to be the best that you can be. Listening to affirmations regularly and consistently will aid in your personal growth and development, your happiness, and your success. It could also boost your self-confidence.

No matter where you sit in these areas, there is always room to grow. Self-confidence is key to having a healthy relationship with yourself, and this is crucial if you want to have a healthy relationship of any kind with another person. It is particularly helpful if you want to have a healthy dom-sub relationship.

This audio is geared toward training you to be a good sub, learning more about what that entails and learning what is expected of a sub, and then ending with affirmations for self-improvement and for putting you in a subby mind. When affirmations are said over and over and over, particularly first thing in the morning and or before you go to sleep, they can become habit and eventually become a part of who you are. You may even eventually find yourself saying affirmations throughout the day, automatically.

Your thoughts become your actions, your actions become your character. Being a good sub isn't easy, it is a lot of work to meet the expectations of your domina on all levels, physically, mentally, and sexually. However, if you are willing to accept the challenge to be the best version of yourself, it can be a very fulfilling lifestyle.

A good sub has a desire to be owned but won't allow himself to be a doormat or to be abused. A sub also has feelings and needs, and his domina recognizes that and respects those feelings and needs. A submissive can be an independent and strong individual and still be a sub.

Subs are not weak, subs are the ones choosing his lifestyle for himself. His submission is a gift, a gift that only he has the power to give. If being completely subservient feels awkward at first, start small and build up to more.

And as a sub, you will begin to realize that you are becoming addicted to control. And you want more and more and more and more. A good sub craves giving up control, a good sub should be confident.

Choosing to obey can be very empowering, although a sub does whatever his domina asks of him and is striving to please her at all times, it is always still within the sub's limits. A good submissive is consequentially obedient and compliant to his domina. A submissive loves to give up control.

A submissive craves being used. A submissive craves and needs to serve. A submissive strives to please his domina in all areas, not just sexually.

This means a sub may have to give up some of his own personal freedoms and preferences. A sub must please his domina. A sub in a domina-sub relationship aims to conduct himself in a respectful and modest manner at all times.

Recognizing that his behavior is a direct reflection of his domina. It is not uncommon for a sub to have a mild and quiet personality while in the presence of his domina. Subs are obedient and accept discipline when needed.

A sub's purpose is to make his domina's life easier, not harder. So even if a sub is feeling extra bratty, he should still be making his dom's life interesting, exciting, and challenging. A sub should learn to read his domina.

If he notices she may be feeling he is being too bratty, he should tame it. A sub is proactive with his thoughts and thinks about what his domina needs at any given moment. A sub fulfills his domina's needs enthusiastically.

Again, a sub fulfills his domina's needs enthusiastically. No matter how well you serve, you always vow to serve better. A sub feels an overwhelming sense of fulfillment when he sees domina pleased with him.

You obey domina's rules without question. You strive to listen more attentively and act more efficiently. Submissives are not perfect.

They will mess up from time to time. There are always the stressors of life that can affect your role as a sub. It can be hard to work on behavior modification and serving someone else when you are tired and pressed for time.

It can be difficult to be obedient when you are not in the presence of your domina. But you must be, always. A sub should keep his mental health in check by getting enough sleep, taking mental breaks, and meditating regularly.

A sub should proactively think what his domina needs at any given moment and fulfill it enthusiastically. A sub needs to be of servitude. Every time his domina needs something, he is to get it for her.

If she needs a pen, he should get it. A drink, that's the sub's job. Dinner? Get it.

Now, of course, if domina changes her mind and wants to do things herself, the sub has no say. One good idea is having a daily mantra written fresh on the sub's skin each day. This can remind him of his purpose.

An example would be, my purpose is to serve her. One of the greatest ways a sub can enhance a dom's life is sexually. Thus, submitting to any request within one's contract is very important.

A sub should obey rules to the best of his ability. But, if discipline is necessary, he should take it willingly, accepting discipline when needed. Being submissive is not just the role, it is a way of life.

A sub can wear a collar when he is not with domina to remind him of what he is and keep him in the slave mindset. A collar can remind a slave that he is property, owned by domina. And as such, he is a representation of his domina.

And this can cause a sub to take great pride in his health and presentation of his body. Ways that a sub can do this are getting sufficient sleep, exercising regularly, eating a healthy diet of real foods, eliminating or limiting alcohol, dressing properly, having good hygiene and grooming, keeping stress levels in check, a healthy self-esteem, and exercising his mind. Now, of course, a sub does not need to be perfect.

This is not about perfection, this is about progress and effort. A sub should not feel like he needs to have the best body and do everything perfectly. It's about being the best that he can be and continually striving to be better.

Nobody is perfect, domina is not perfect either, but it's about being the best that you can be. However true submission is not just a role, it is a way of life. Being a submissive and a domina sub relationship means you are held to a higher standard than you would be with just a vanilla partner, but it is all worth it.

By doing so you will receive the ultimate gift of domina's complete approval. Now let's return to the topic of self-esteem, it's very important. Self-esteem relates to how you feel about yourself and whether you like yourself.

Being submissive is not about being a doormat, nor a lesser person. Affirmations are a great way to improve on self-esteem. These are positive input you can give yourself each day to remind yourself that you are a good person.

You do have confidence and that you do have abilities and infinite possibilities. Remember your thoughts become your actions, your actions become your character. And now I would like for you to move on to the audio for affirmations.