1. Pleasure-Oriented Guided Self Play

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My name is Sharon Marie Scott. In this guided erotic meditation, we're going to concentrate on pleasure-oriented self-play. That means we won't be focused on climax.

Instead, the only goal we'll have is to explore what types of sensations elicit pleasure to your body. Now, that doesn't mean that you need to discourage or stop yourself from climaxing if that's where this experience ends up taking you. It just means that for this span of time that we're together today, pure, sensate pleasure rather than orgasm is the intention.

You're giving yourself permission to explore your sensual and sexual body and to raise your sensual energy, so stay curious as you play. We'll be exploring more than just the genitals as we explore all the delicious ways you can bring yourself pleasurable sensation. If at any time something starts to feel uncomfortable or painful or challenging emotions come up, I encourage you to stop and take some long, loving breaths to remind yourself that you're safe, that you have a right to your pleasure, and that it is a beautiful and loving thing to be spending this time with yourself.

Feel free to do this meditation clothed or unclothed. Obviously, you want to find a quiet and private place where you won't be interrupted and remove any distractions so you can focus on your body. As you set your space up, consider all five of your senses, candles, incense, music, fruit or chocolate, maybe a favorite piece of lingerie, whatever brings out your playful or sensual side.

If you're a fan of ritual, this is an ideal vehicle for that. You could even do this exercise in front of a mirror. And here's a best-kept little secret for any of you creatives out there.

If you're ever feeling stalled out because you've hit a creative wall, this kind of pleasure-oriented play is a wonderful way to get the creative juices flowing again, literally. Sounds like a well-bit spent of time today, doesn't it? Now, the very first thing I want you to do is to visually take in the space around you.

If you're already laying down, you can sit up or just lift your head. If this kind of movement isn't available to you, looking around with just your eyes is perfect. Take your first intentional breath in and then let it out.

Pick a side to start with and first let your eyes, then your head, then your shoulders twist all the way around as far as it's comfortable to go. As your eyes sweep around, let them fall on anything that catches your eye. Maybe it's a pop of color or texture, plant or the sky.

What colors or textures bring you a moment of pleasure? Now to the other side. Turn your eyes, then your head, letting the shoulders follow, again, looking all the way behind you onto the other side, noting any beauty you find along the way.

And then return your head and your gaze back to center. You are safe. Now it's time to settle in for some delicious sensation play.

You can remain sitting if you like or find a comfortable position lying down. Feel free to stretch your legs out or have your knees up, whatever feels right for you in this moment. If you need more support, tuck a pillow under your knees or your pelvis so you're not straining or holding.

You want your body to be totally relaxed. Of course, you can incorporate your favorite sensation play toys or sex toys into this practice, but I'll only be referring to the use of your hands and fingers. Oh, and I do recommend having some lubricant ready for later.

Feel free to pause this recording while you set up your space. Now, take a moment to bring your awareness into your body. Take a long breath in, noting the coolness of the air through your nostrils as you inhale and the warmth of the air as you exhale.

Really feel into the weight of your body as it presses down on the chair or the bed or the floor. Feel how you're supported there. Another breath in.

This time, make your exhale longer than your inhale. Really draw it out, allowing your body to moan or let go of whatever tension it's holding. Now take your hands and begin to gently touch your face, first running your fingers across it lightly and then finding little areas to tap or massage.

Are there any areas that want more? Add with more to those areas. Now run your fingers over your head and through your hair.

Feel the sensation your fingers coax out. Feel it spread all over your scalp. Move to your ears.

Gently grasp your earlobes with your fingers, massaging them and pulling them downward toward your shoulders. Get a little more playful now. Place your fingertips down your neck and shoulders, across your collarbone.

Now lower over your chest and breasts. Let your fingertips brush your nipples. Watch your nipples as they respond to your touch and let yourself smile.

Your body's response is beautiful and sexy. Use the heel or the palm of your hand to massage the muscles just above your breasts. We rarely spend any quality of time here and these muscles do a lot of work for us.

Wake them up. Get the blood flowing here. More blood flow means more sensation.

Now cup your breasts in both of your hands and give them a little squeeze. Are your hands a different temperature? How does that feel against your skin? Tune in.

Playing with temperature can feel surprisingly pleasurable. Hug your gorgeous breasts toward each other and then move them in deliberate, slow circles, noting any movement or pressure that feels good. It's time to play with those nipples again.

Let's start with the left one. Run your fingertips over the nipple there again and watch the skin respond. This time you're going to bring your thumbs and forefingers together as if you were going to pinch someone and gently at first grab a hold of the areola, the colored area around the nipple, with both sets of pinchers.

Gently squeezing the areola and sliding your pinched fingers away from each other, pulling the skin outward, away from the nipple. Now try it on the other side. Turn your hands down your outer thighs.

As you caress your skin, try to keep your mind engaged from the inside of your body on the sensations and vibrations that are stirred up from the inside out. Caress your inner thighs and then your inner calves. Take your time.

Down the inside of the ankles and to your feet. Sensual and sensual energy travels along this path, so take your time and enjoy any small bits of delight. If it calls to you, give your feet a little massage.

Now start at your neck and shoulders again, only this time using a firmer touch or even your fingernails. Sweep down your whole body again. Find what feels good.

What kind of touch would you need to give yourself goosebumps? Do that now. Give yourself goosebumps.

Sink into any enjoyable sensation that is dancing along your skin. See if you can spread that feeling across your whole body. What kind of touch makes you moan? Is it light and teasing? Is it deeper, firmer touch? What else is there to notice? Can you feel your skin flushing? Are your nipples hard? Did your body shiver? Mmm, I hope so.

Now bring your awareness to the beautiful, juicy bits of flesh between your legs. Just bringing your mind and attention here brings blood flow and like I mentioned before, more blood flow means more sensation. Breathe into the space between your legs as if your whole body was breathing directly through your pelvis.

Breathe in again, through your pelvis, and out. You might have a sudden urge to wiggle your hips or gyrate, let that impulse take you. Follow the body's desire.

Now start to gently clench the muscles of your pubic floor. Just little pulses at first, pulse, pulse, pulse. Now start to squeeze harder and deeper.

Think of pulling upward and squeezing from the perineum, contracting all those pelvic floor muscles up toward your navel. Hold yourself there for a moment, squeezing, and release it all, relaxing even deeper. If you can't actually feel your pelvic muscles squeezing, imagine all of the muscles there tightening and contracting.

Trust that your body is listening. You're probably feeling a bit of warmth now between your legs. Breathe into that warmth, spread it all over your body.

Let's add touch now. If you're using a lubricant, now's the time to use it. Be generous, even luxurious with it.

The wet slickness itself as you touch your body can be arousing all on its own. Start with your fingertips, lightly stroking over your mound. Explore any crevices, any fleshy parts.

I'm really curious here, taking the time to tickle and caress and tap and tug. Try using your other hand now and do the same thing. Does it change anything? Use your knuckles to explore yourself as well.

Does firmer pressure feel more pleasurable or do you like lighter teasing? There's no wrong answer. Now make your strokes firmer.

Grab a bit of skin and give it a pull. Try grabbing the skin of your thighs and give that a squeeze. What kind of touch elicits pleasure on your thighs? Make some sounds now.

This might feel awkward at first, but do it anyway. This is the place for you to try things that you've been afraid of. You're safe.

Give the juiciest bits of flesh a couple sharper pats now. Sometimes that little shock on the skin can bring a jolt of pleasure. If that doesn't feel pleasurable, just go back to the kind of touch that does.

Find where your yes is. Check in with your breath now. Has it changed? Lick your lips and swallow, tasting your own playful arousal on your tongue.